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We've lost a ray of sunshine. RIP Patchoulia


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#251 basher

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Posted 26 November 2010 - 05:05 AM

So finally I was able to make it through the entire thread. Wow is all I can say. Mike, those words mean a lot to me, even though I always knew them to be true in your heart. Julia spoke fondly of you, and I know how special your relationship was.

To all the vibes people I met "in passing", I remember you all and I look forward to hugs when I see you next.

Now, as the person who knew Julia the best, I will be making every effort to pay proper tribute to her wishes. She would demand that the party continue, as we have little time to waste making memories with our friends and loved ones.

I will be in Las Vegas over Christmas with family and friends. And I will be in New York City to visit the only church I know for three nights in a row through 1/1/11, which I am really looking to as a significant reset. I hope to see lots of you there, and hope that by then that pain is a touch more bearable for us all.

Lots of love from Toronto,
Brian

#252 katmama

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Posted 26 November 2010 - 05:10 AM

wow. *poof*

:heart::heart::heart:

#253 syd_25

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Posted 26 November 2010 - 12:39 PM

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#254 elder

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Posted 26 November 2010 - 01:37 PM

My deepest heart felt condolences to her friends and family....including this here community :heart:
Such a sad morning right now. So unfair.

#255 Wende

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Posted 26 November 2010 - 03:44 PM

I hope everyone can find some peace in their hearts soon. She sure did make quite the impact around here, huh? :heart::heart::heart::heart:

#256 seany

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Posted 26 November 2010 - 03:51 PM

I'm feeling comforted by all the outpouring of love that this community and all of her friends on FB have offered to all that are pained by this tragic loss. She was a wonderful soul and friend
(((Julia))) :heart::heart::heart:

#257 erocstheparty

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Posted 26 November 2010 - 03:57 PM

My thoughts and prayers are with her family and friends

#258 Jersey Thug

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Posted 26 November 2010 - 05:08 PM

i've been trying to say...something, i don't know what...for two days now, and have failed miserably at each attempt. but i know she'd understand. some of the moments i liked most with her were the ones when words failed either, or both, of us, and we'd sit in shared silence, each with our vices, until one of us would say something silly to break the quiet.

my thoughts are with Brian and everyone who loved her...and if you knew her even a little, you were sure to, because she was amazing. funny, with a sharp wit and just the right amount of snark so you never were able to take her or yourself too seriously, no matter what the topic.

she was a great friend to me, honest and trustworthy, and one of my favorite women of ever. i'll never forget her or any of the lessons i learned through our too-brief friendship.

rest in peace, Princess Patchoulia :heart:

#259 Prometheus

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Posted 26 November 2010 - 05:21 PM

NOOOOOOOO!!! :cry1::cry1::cry1: One of my all time favorite people! I'm seriously shaken, shocked and immensely saddened by this. :heart::heart::heart::heart::heart:

#260 basher

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Posted 26 November 2010 - 05:53 PM

I need to pick some song lyrics to go inside the memorial that each person will get at the visitation/service.

It is a hard task that I must have complete by today.

Some of you on here know Julia's musical tastes almost as well as I do, so I would love some suggestions.

I was thinking, based on Kanada Kev's video:

This ain't a song for the brokenhearted
No silent prayer for the faith departed
And I ain't gonna be just a face in the crowd
You're gonna hear my voice when I shout it out loud

It's my life
It's now or never
I ain't gonna live forever
I just wanna live while I'm alive

My heart is like an open highway
Like Frankie said, "I did it my way"
I just wanna live while I'm alive
'Cause it's my life

This is for the ones who stood their ground
For (all my friends) who never backed down
Tomorrow's getting harder, make no mistake
Luck ain't even lucky, gotta make your own breaks

You better stand tall
When they're calling you out
Don't bend, don't break
Baby, don't back down

- Bon Jovi (Julia's not so guilty pleasure).

#261 Mutant

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Posted 26 November 2010 - 05:57 PM

That looks like an excellent choice to me, Brian.

Please don't be a stranger around here. Anyone good enough for Julia is good enough for me, and I suspect the vast majority of "boardies".

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#262 TEO

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Posted 26 November 2010 - 06:01 PM

basher, that was the first Bon Jovi song that always came to mind when thinking of Julia. :jamguy: :heart: :jamguy:

#263 basher

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Posted 26 November 2010 - 06:05 PM

Okay thanks all, I have sent those lyrics with an image off to the funeral home.

#264 TEO

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Posted 26 November 2010 - 06:10 PM

(((basher)))

It's perfect, I can see the grin and hear the laughter.

#265 Lemireacle

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Posted 26 November 2010 - 06:14 PM

Definitely a good choice, Brian!

Been thinking about Julesy a lot the last couple of days! :heart:

Been playing one of her favorties a bunch:
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Looking forward to seeing you on 1/1/11, Brian! :)

#266 basher

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Posted 26 November 2010 - 06:14 PM

Obituary for Julia http://bit.ly/JuliaMcAllister

#267 fire_rocket

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Posted 26 November 2010 - 08:29 PM

((((((Brian)))))) I think MSG is the perfect church to celebrate Julia's life. I'm glad you're still going to remember Julia. Never will a Phish or Ominous Seapods show go by that she isn't on my mind. :heart:

#268 lost-in-boston

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Posted 26 November 2010 - 08:34 PM

so much love to you Brian :heart:
She is missed so much already :cry1:


#269 Lemireacle

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Posted 26 November 2010 - 08:56 PM

((((((Brian)))))) I think MSG is the perfect church to celebrate Julia's life. I'm glad you're still going to remember Julia. Never will a Phish or Ominous Seapods show go by that she isn't on my mind. :heart:


this

#270 Erinisme

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Posted 26 November 2010 - 09:44 PM

I'm in the process of putting a memorial service together. Looks like it'll be in the Albany area, stay tuned for details.

#271 Mr.BBG

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Posted 26 November 2010 - 10:16 PM

Much love to all affected ... I never got a chance to meet her but certainly enjoyed her sense of humor on here. :heart::heart::heart:

#272 matty

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Posted 26 November 2010 - 10:19 PM

Is anyone going to drive up for the funeral? Say from Boston or Albany or Syracuse? I could drive to meet you and then carpool up. I could share driving and pay for gas. I might be able to find us a place to crash up there as well.

#273 cdrhead

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Posted 26 November 2010 - 10:35 PM

:heart:

#274 Jersey Thug

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Posted 26 November 2010 - 10:35 PM

I'm in the process of putting a memorial service together. Looks like it'll be in the Albany area, stay tuned for details.


Thank you...if I can help in any way, let me know please?

#275 seany

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Posted 26 November 2010 - 10:50 PM

It seems like the MSG shows would be the perfect opportunity for a memorial :dunno:, but I know many would prefer to do it sooner. If it's in the Albany area in Dec, I can possibly make it and would like to. I'll be down in FL come the MSG run...

#276 PieDoh

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Posted 27 November 2010 - 01:51 AM

So sad. :heart:

Tell the people you love that you love them. Do it today...

#277 sarah b.

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Posted 27 November 2010 - 02:59 AM

That's perfect, Brian. See you whenever, wherever, on 1/1/11. (We also met with Mad Libs at Kimmy's, many hazy moons ago.) :) Erin, what Jennie said. :heart: There are two Seapods shows coming up in Feb. at Saranac Lake, NY that might be good for that: http://www.jambase.c...EventID=1346738 (or, whenever) I realize that that's not exactly Albany. :lol:

#278 orion

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Posted 27 November 2010 - 07:37 AM

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#279 Sugar_Mag

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Posted 27 November 2010 - 08:27 AM

:heart: R.I.P Julia

I only knew her through the boards, but she was a riot. Having yet another boardie passing so soon has really made me step back and appreciate all of the people I have in my life and hopefully will continue to have.

My deepest sympathies to those of you who knew her well.

#280 crujonez

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Posted 27 November 2010 - 01:16 PM

very sad. :sad:

RIP

#281 Drop_o_Rain

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Posted 27 November 2010 - 01:44 PM

Who has those MadLibs..
didn't we keep them somewhere?!!!

sigh...
I think a bunch of us are going to meet in Rochester too, at some point.
We want to be together.
I will keep you informed about that too.

#282 DJ Easy Wind

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Posted 27 November 2010 - 02:08 PM

Brian, my deepest condolences to you at this heartbreaking time. I never really knew Patchoulia personally , but I remember her being a positive light on these boards. Our thoughts and prayers and with you and your family...:heart:

#283 Jersey_Girl

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Posted 27 November 2010 - 04:30 PM

<3

#284 melissa.phish

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Posted 27 November 2010 - 05:20 PM

So sad. :heart:

Tell the people you love that you love them. Do it EVERY day...


Fixed it for you.

#285 SHStrangers

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Posted 27 November 2010 - 05:34 PM

What a shame :-(

#286 NHButterfly

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Posted 27 November 2010 - 09:53 PM

I still can't find the words...but she will be very missed. I neverthought I wouldn't see her again. My heart goes out to all.:cry1:

#287 Dagan

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Posted 27 November 2010 - 10:05 PM

special dedication radio show today!!! http://wool.fm/listen.html

#288 lunaone

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Posted 28 November 2010 - 12:57 PM

oh man, so sorry to hear .what a lovely person . she made me lol just about eveyday on these boards . to say she will be missed is the biggest understatement ever.
rip patchouli

#289 mydarlinsugaree

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Posted 28 November 2010 - 02:28 PM

Very sad to hear of it. I only knew her slightly from the board, but it seems like most of the threads I posted in were ones that she started (a lot of times, her words brought me out of the woodwork). She was always so kind and funny.

Much love and light to her family and loved ones at this time. Cherish your memories and keep her with you, always. Someone as special as her will not fade away. :heart::heart::heart:

#290 Chula

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Posted 28 November 2010 - 05:01 PM

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#291 TylerTerrapinCurtis

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Posted 28 November 2010 - 06:11 PM

Tears in my eyes, and I didn't even know her.
(((RIP)))

#292 DayStar

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Posted 28 November 2010 - 07:52 PM

this dark world just lost one of the brightest lights it has ever known. :heart:

#293 Lostsailr

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Posted 28 November 2010 - 10:06 PM

Sorry for the loss for all who knew and loved her... and for those who will miss her thoughts and wise cracks here.

:heart::heart::heart:

#294 DereK

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Posted 29 November 2010 - 05:45 AM

Sorry for the loss .. and for those who will miss her thoughts and wise cracks here.

:heart::heart::heart:


I am one of those. Never knew her in person but always enjoyed the spirit and humor of her posts here. My heart goes out to those who loved this vibrant soul. You can indeed sense these things online, and I appreciated her.

#295 crazysage

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Posted 29 November 2010 - 01:45 PM

wow, just saw this now

my deepest condolences to those of you closest to her.
I didnt know he well personally but always appreciated what she brought to this community.

her humor and honesty will be missed by me

#296 forestdancer

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Posted 29 November 2010 - 02:23 PM

:heart: to her family and all her friends.

No words.

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#297 micki

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Posted 29 November 2010 - 03:06 PM

Much love to all who were close to her :heart:

My condolences to the family.

#298 lilphlower

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Posted 29 November 2010 - 03:35 PM

wow. how f*cking sad :(

much love and light to our dear friend, may you rest in peace.....and lots of positive vibes to brian and their fam:heart:

#299 Gwendolyn

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Posted 29 November 2010 - 03:58 PM

Peace is hers :heart:

#300 jg

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Posted 29 November 2010 - 04:05 PM

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((( Mo Pete's #1 fan )))

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I remember when she got to meet him. She was so excited, plus the difference in height, made for a great photo.....


I was saying boooo-urns .... :sad: :heart: