Need Opinion -- What Would Boardies Do (WWBD) ??
Posted 09 May 2012 - 05:10 PM
Since he was leaving on short notice, he didn't have time to move his bed out of the apartment. I verbally said that he could keep it there until the weekend. I asked him to tell me a firm date when he would have it out. He said he'd move it on Saturday May 5th and "by Sunday at the latest." I sent texts, emails, and left voice-mails a number of times on Friday, Saturday, and Sunday asking if he was coming to get the bed so that one of us could be there to let him in (he had returned his keys.) He did not reply at all.
On Monday the 7th, a new roommate moved in to take his room. I had to move his bed out of his old room. I made space for it in my already cramped room. I posted the bed for-sale on Craig's List. I'm hoping to recoup some of the money I had to pay to get him out and for the lawyer to draw up documents. There is a person coming today to look at the bed.
But, of course, today I get an email from the ex-roommate, "I am sorry, I have been very sick and haven't worked or been able to get out. I will check on this and get back to you ASAP." Do I just say, "Sorry. Too Late." Or, since we were the ones asking him to leave and since he may have been sick, do I give him another chance to get his bed?
Posted 09 May 2012 - 05:14 PM
He could have shown the common courtesy of calling you back. Being "sick" isn't an excuse for that except for extreme illness.
I'd be honest. I'd say there's someone coming to look at purchasing the bed today and if he wants to keep the bed, he better arrive before the potential buyer does.
Posted 09 May 2012 - 05:16 PM
Looks like I'm the dick in the thread.
It just sounds to me like Jaba made a very reasonable effort and his ex-roommate is a bit of a deadbeat he probably needs a firm ultimatum to get motivated. He already was given one ultimatum. What's to say he doesn't blow off a second one?
Posted 09 May 2012 - 05:17 PM
if you give him another chance, he may just end up screwing you again. get whatever money you can for it & forget it. he couldn't return a text? i find that a little ridiculous.
Posted 09 May 2012 - 05:19 PM
ok Looks like I'm the dick in the thread. It just sounds to me like Jaba made a very reasonable effort and his ex-roommate is a bit of a deadbeat he probably needs a firm ultimatum to get motivated. He already was given one ultimatum. What's to say he doesn't blow off a second one?
it looks like i may be the bigger dick here
& i agree
Posted 09 May 2012 - 05:20 PM
Posted 09 May 2012 - 05:21 PM
Seems more than reasonable. Even for a libertarian like me.
Posted 09 May 2012 - 05:23 PM
She then showed up at my door five months after looking for her stuff. I tried not to laugh in her face....
Anyway, this person has made a valid attempt to contact you, and five days is not really a reasonable time to not give the persons stuff back...
Posted 09 May 2012 - 05:25 PM
Thanks for the replies. Interesting that their is a mix -- same mix that is in my head.
Posted 09 May 2012 - 05:49 PM
i'd be tempted to sell it back to him for the price it cost you to get him out...but it seems like that was money well spent, so personally i'd forgo that and just be glad he's out of the picture completely. it's best to avoid making enemies when you can, IMO.
Posted 09 May 2012 - 06:09 PM
there's a lot of unknowns here like the size and value of the bed as well as the reason you booted him off the island.
Did you kick him out because he shoots dope? Does he have AIDS? If it's any of those than I'm sure he's sick.
Do you suspect him of stealing? Did he steal your girlfriend? I don't know... lots of factors.
Posted 09 May 2012 - 06:47 PM
You called him several times. He could have shown the common courtesy of calling you back. Being "sick" isn't an excuse for that except for extreme illness.
Seriously!! He could have had someone call on his behalf if he was too sick to pick up his phone to call or text you back!
Posted 09 May 2012 - 07:55 PM
that said i think id need to know more about the original problem to say... if he really was causing a problem like he lied about the fact that he is a die hard racist, sexist and homeophobe and thats why you wanted him out... something like that then screw him. but if it was bc you and your roomies decided you didnt like to hear him singing operettas or something then i say give the poor bastard his bed back.
Posted 09 May 2012 - 10:18 PM
I mean, even after throwing up or whatever, your fingers will still work.
You tried to give him ample notice. He finally did respond, but really, grow up.
I'd tell him, OK, I'm keeping it until _ date, then it's out.
Really. Some people need to get it together. It's not like he left behind a few shirts, this is a big piece of furniture...he just can't think someone's going t keep it laying around for him.