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#1 Julius

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Posted 06 March 2012 - 06:25 AM

So it's pretty much unanimous among the women in one of my local SF social circles that once you've dated one person in the circle, that's it, you're ruined for all others because apparently it causes some sort of social awkwardness.

I don't buy it. Never been the case in any other social circle I've been a part of. I refuse to accept this bullshit.

Have you ever heard of such a thing?

. . . and I always wondered why so many women date mostly from internet dating sites instead of from people they meet with common interests. . . with rules like these, it's no wonder they have to resort to that.

#2 DancingBearly

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Posted 06 March 2012 - 07:49 AM

Posted ImageIncert she for he:gop:

#3 Phishfolk

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Posted 06 March 2012 - 02:27 PM

Break up the circle :lol:

#4 TEO

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Posted 06 March 2012 - 02:39 PM

Quite often if someone has dated certain people they are off my list.

#5 jnjn

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Posted 06 March 2012 - 02:47 PM

if we're talking about a group of friends (not random acquaintances) then i agree w/ your lady friends. personally i've never felt comfortable dating a friend of an ex, but that's just me. and if an ex started dating one of my friends i'd be pissed at both of them.

ok, i'm not gonna lie i did once (only once! :lol:) mess around w/ one of my exes friends, but we never dated

#6 Lemireacle

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Posted 06 March 2012 - 02:54 PM

Yeah, I have heard of it and I dont necessarily buy into it, but I can respect those who do.
Some good friends of mine would have never found each other in that sense, if they had followed that rule though. :dunno:

#7 TEO

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Posted 06 March 2012 - 03:04 PM

Yeah, I have heard of it and I dont necessarily buy into it, but I can respect those who do.
Some good friends of mine would have never found each other in that sense, if they had followed that rule though. :dunno:



Difference between love with long-term potential and "dating."

#8 Lemireacle

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Posted 06 March 2012 - 03:10 PM

Difference between love with long-term potential and "dating."


Obviously.

#9 JBetty

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Posted 06 March 2012 - 03:16 PM

Seems like people with this rule would be the highly jealous types that enjoy gossiping about other people's relationships as well as their own.

But what do I know :undecided: I've never heard of this "rule" before.

#10 Tim the Beek

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Posted 06 March 2012 - 03:52 PM

Seems like people with this rule would be the highly jealous types that enjoy gossiping about other people's relationships as well as their own.

But what do I know :undecided: I've never heard of this "rule" before.


You say this now, but when I have a howling pack of Betties flaying me, you n' I are gonna have words, woman. :mrgreen:

#11 Phishfolk

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Posted 06 March 2012 - 04:38 PM

Guys have this rule too. I USED TO have a group of friends like this...USED TO. If they broke up with someone you were expected to immediately right the girl off and run her out of the social group.

#12 Julius

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Posted 06 March 2012 - 04:39 PM

Posted ImageIncert she for he:gop:


Clearly not! :lol:

And I don't care. But I can't help thinking she might be poisoning the water for no reason I can understand.

#13 JBetty

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Posted 06 March 2012 - 04:39 PM

Guys have this rule too. I USED TO have a group of friends like this...USED TO. If they broke up with someone you were expected to immediately right the girl off and run her out of the social group.




Why? :dunno:

#14 Julius

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Posted 06 March 2012 - 04:47 PM

i agree w/ your lady friends.


You're supposed to take my side. :spank: :lol:

#15 Julius

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Posted 06 March 2012 - 04:49 PM

Quite often if someone has dated certain people they are off my list.


Agreed but that's different. That's more of a "If he/she can be with THAT thing, I have no interest!"

#16 DancingBearly

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Posted 06 March 2012 - 04:53 PM

Clearly not! :lol:

And I don't care. But I can't help thinking she might be poisoning the water for no reason I can understand.


Aha! That where you going wrong; you think you can understand them and/ or they are logical:lol:

#17 Julius

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Posted 06 March 2012 - 04:58 PM

Anyway, yooz guys are the most incestuous circle I've ever known. :lol:

((((Boardies)))))

#18 wonka

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Posted 06 March 2012 - 05:23 PM

sounds like a bunch of circle jerks!!

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#19 jnjn

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Posted 06 March 2012 - 05:31 PM

You're supposed to take my side. :spank: :lol:


:lol:

no one wants to be the one known for "running through the crew" :funny1:

#20 TEO

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Posted 06 March 2012 - 05:32 PM

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#21 In A Silent Way

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Posted 06 March 2012 - 05:34 PM

:lol:

no one wants to be the one known for "running through the crew" :funny1:

Doorknob'd

#22 Julius

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Posted 06 March 2012 - 05:44 PM

Thankfully there's more than one circle. :wink:

#23 Phishfolk

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Posted 06 March 2012 - 06:03 PM

Why? :dunno:


Why were they like that or why am I not friends with them anymore? :lol:

#24 TEO

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Posted 06 March 2012 - 06:12 PM

...well once you got done banging their exes....

#25 JBetty

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Posted 06 March 2012 - 06:12 PM

Why were they like that or why am I not friends with them anymore? :lol:



The former.
I'm trying to figure out why some people think this a good way to behave.
What's their motivation?

#26 jnjn

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Posted 06 March 2012 - 06:15 PM

Doorknob'd


:lol:

#27 TEO

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Posted 06 March 2012 - 06:38 PM

The former.
I'm trying to figure out why some people think this a good way to behave.
What's their motivation?


Perhaps if you "got around more" you'd get it. :naughty:

#28 Phishfolk

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Posted 06 March 2012 - 06:54 PM

The former.
I'm trying to figure out why some people think this a good way to behave.
What's their motivation?


This I really couldn't tell you. It always seemed like little boy heman woman haters shit to me. I just hope they've grown up.

#29 JBetty

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Posted 06 March 2012 - 07:06 PM

Perhaps if you "got around more" you'd get it. :naughty:




Are you suggesting that I should have gone all cougar on that guy Saturday night when he asked me if I was at the show alone? :undecided:

#30 TEO

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Posted 06 March 2012 - 07:08 PM

Only if you planned to go cougar on all his friends too.

#31 JBetty

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Posted 06 March 2012 - 07:10 PM

He was at the show alone.

#32 Tim the Beek

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Posted 06 March 2012 - 07:10 PM

:funny1:

#33 TEO

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Posted 06 March 2012 - 07:12 PM

He was at the show alone.


You need to find one with a circle of friends. :wink:

#34 JBetty

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Posted 06 March 2012 - 07:17 PM

You need to find one with a circle of friends. :wink:




I did that 5 years ago.

#35 Julius

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Posted 06 March 2012 - 07:20 PM

You need to find one with a circle of friends. :wink:


:lol: :thumbup:

#36 TEO

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Posted 06 March 2012 - 07:30 PM

I did that 5 years ago.


If you did not get it on with circle of friends that does not count as credit towards this lesson.

#37 JBetty

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Posted 06 March 2012 - 07:45 PM

:circle: :undecided:

#38 TEO

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Posted 06 March 2012 - 07:59 PM

(((JBetty)))

#39 DancingBearly

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Posted 06 March 2012 - 08:00 PM

Thankfully there's more than one circle. :wink:


Ya Google + is cool like that:wink:

#40 Tim the Beek

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Posted 06 March 2012 - 08:09 PM

:grouphug: JBetty :smile: :grouphug:

#41 Terrapin Station

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Posted 06 March 2012 - 08:11 PM

The circle rule works great when you have a large shlong.

Just sayin. :coffee:





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#42 JBetty

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Posted 06 March 2012 - 08:17 PM

RC: Failed TEO's Sluts 101 class

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#43 cdrhead

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Posted 06 March 2012 - 09:53 PM

I'm certainly not going after my best friends girl but I'm not going to write someone off if they dated "a friend".

#44 Jersey Thug

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Posted 06 March 2012 - 10:39 PM

i've heard of it, but never understood it. i figure we're all friends for a reason and can be expected to make good decisions for ourselves for the most part. if a good friend was thinking of dating someone i had bad history with, who hurt me or another friend in an inexcusable way, i would hope they'd take the warning as it was intended and not as sour grapes for something that didn't work out. other than that, who my friends date is completely up to them, and they're welcome to just about any ex of mine, minus the one or two who aren't fit to date anyone, let along my nearest and dearest :)

#45 TEO

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Posted 06 March 2012 - 10:48 PM

How about before you are aware they are an ex?

#46 Julius

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Posted 06 March 2012 - 11:46 PM

When such rules are forced down my throat it always makes me plot about how to buck them. :lol:

Her best friend has always looked at me with these puppy eyes. . . :devil:

#47 TEO

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Posted 06 March 2012 - 11:50 PM

Sounds like a set up. :coffee:

#48 Jersey Thug

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Posted 07 March 2012 - 12:22 AM

How about before you are aware they are an ex?


in that case either they weren't a very close friend of mine to begin with (since i was unaware) or it wasn't a significant relationship between them (ditto) and either way my personal code would be satisfied, in most cases. if it was ancient but significant history, i'd ask my friend about it, and proceed with caution.

if i was falling in love, well, that's a game changer. only the closest of friends or family would hold any sway if i thought i'd found my person. i love y'all, but compared to what i have with Jason? i'd risk a lot for a chance at that.

but somehow i suspect we're not talking about love, here. :lol:

#49 Jersey Thug

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Posted 07 March 2012 - 12:25 AM

Sounds like a set up. :coffee:


that, or a *really* dysfunctional friendship :lol:

unless you were just fucking. but most women rarely are.

#50 Phishfolk

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Posted 07 March 2012 - 12:56 PM

in that case either they weren't a very close friend of mine to begin with (since i was unaware) or it wasn't a significant relationship between them (ditto) and either way my personal code would be satisfied, in most cases. if it was ancient but significant history, i'd ask my friend about it, and proceed with caution.

if i was falling in love, well, that's a game changer. only the closest of friends or family would hold any sway if i thought i'd found my person. i love y'all, but compared to what i have with Jason? i'd risk a lot for a chance at that.

but somehow i suspect we're not talking about love, here. :lol:


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