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#1 cj

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Posted 04 October 2009 - 01:06 AM

this is bj, my cat. he's 18, and this year, i have had him exactly half my life. he's an old man, and more and more i am noticing little things that show his age. he now takes stairs slowly and carefully, and he occasionally misses the box. and when he was an outdoor cat he used to roam the neighborhood. now, the only reason he can be out at all in our busy neighborhood is that he pretty much sticks to the driveway to eat weeds, or the porch, to lay in the sun. so, he's not going to be around that much longer. but for now, he still seeks out sunbeams, hangs with jeremy even though three year olds kind of annoy him, so sometimes he just sits beside him and stares jj down. :funny1: i just hope that when his time comes, i will recognize it, accept it and not allow him to suffer for a second. :heart:

snuggling with kev and jeremy last winter.Posted Image

#2 cj

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Posted 04 October 2009 - 01:16 AM

freakshow glowy-eyed cat!
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licking water off himself after being accidentally squirted by two maniacal three year olds with squirters. quinn is laughing her butt off, telling jeremy that they squirted bj. :funny1:
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#3 Elphaba

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Posted 04 October 2009 - 10:01 AM

{{bj}} :heart:

#4 Drop_o_Rain

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Posted 04 October 2009 - 01:12 PM

((((((BJ))))))

Kitty was 18 and we just had to make the decision to let her go peacefully back in August. It was so hard. You are a great mommy, cj, you will know. For now, enjoy your moments. xoxoxoxo

What a great life he has had... which other cat in North America has had a castle designed for him and has posted on this board all in the same weekend! :heart:

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Posted 04 October 2009 - 03:27 PM

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#6 cj

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Posted 04 October 2009 - 04:30 PM

:lol: kimmy, i haven't thought of that in ages! that sure was an awesome castle terry built for him. he was the best cat sitter ever! :Phishfolk:

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Posted 05 October 2009 - 04:15 PM

[quote=Drop_o_Rain;441377What a great life he has had... which other cat in North America has had a castle designed for him and has posted on this board all in the same weekend! :heart:[/quote]


He is so famous! :heart:

#8 nancykind

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Posted 05 October 2009 - 11:54 PM

i remember that :) 18 years gives lots of good memories, Tigger was 18 too. much love to you all. :heart:

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Posted 08 October 2009 - 03:31 PM

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#10 Butterfly

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Posted 10 October 2009 - 03:19 AM

Wow he looks really good for 18:heart:god bless him!!!

#11 pixiebug

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Posted 27 November 2009 - 03:57 PM

:heart: yay BJ! I hope you get many more years together. it's not unheard of!

#12 cj

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Posted 20 December 2009 - 01:18 PM

so, a certain tiger-striped jerk (who will remain nameless) is choosing to poop on the floor *near* his litterbox. not even trying!!! :joker:

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Posted 20 December 2009 - 01:40 PM

is he still peeing in his litter box though?

#14 georgi

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Posted 22 December 2009 - 02:13 PM

Did you change litters?

When we change brands, our kitties get mad and do that!

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Posted 04 January 2010 - 01:24 AM

so, he is sometimes trying, sometimes succeeding, and other times not even going close to his box.

and he stays primarily in one place, on a blanket in front of a heat duct. he is up and about at snack times and meal times, but not much.

i've known for a while logically that yes, bj is going to either die or have to be put down soon. i had my first emotional realization that the time is very near tonight when i had to help him up and when kevin massaged his hips later, to help them get going again after sitting. which he does very strangely now. i don't think he's in pain, he's not crying or flinching when he's touched. he still purrs when you touch him.

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Posted 04 January 2010 - 04:01 AM

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#17 sums

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Posted 04 January 2010 - 05:38 AM

i really believe that you'll know what to do, or not do, when the time comes :heart:

#18 nancykind

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Posted 04 January 2010 - 12:36 PM

i do too. he'll let you know and you are already listening. :heart:

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Posted 07 January 2010 - 01:37 PM

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#20 cj

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Posted 11 January 2011 - 10:50 AM

it's time. if we can get an appointment after work, bj will go peacefully late this afternoon. :heart:

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Posted 11 January 2011 - 02:35 PM

(((cj, freerange & Jeremy))) (((bj)))

Love & comfort :heart:

May happy memories bring smiles to your heart that quickly makes the sadness fade. :heart:

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Posted 11 January 2011 - 02:40 PM

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Posted 11 January 2011 - 10:36 PM

BJ so reminds me of our Tiger, I just hope we are blessed to have him at least as long:heart::heart::heart::heart::heart::heart::heart::heart:

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Posted 11 January 2011 - 10:42 PM

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Posted 12 January 2011 - 12:12 AM

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#26 cj

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Posted 12 January 2011 - 01:21 AM

so tonight was not the night. but this is the week. kev asked for a day before making the appointment to see if beej rallied. he is not is distress, but he is clearly showing signs of too much prednisone for too long. and he is just so fragile and slow. i have to steel myself for this, then i can fall apart after it is done. can you even imagine? i got him when i was 18 -- over half my life to date. :heart: beej :heart:

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Posted 12 January 2011 - 02:54 AM

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Posted 12 January 2011 - 04:50 AM

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Posted 12 January 2011 - 06:30 PM

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#30 cj

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Posted 13 January 2011 - 02:38 AM

*sigh* calling the vet in the morning.

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Posted 13 January 2011 - 02:52 PM

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Posted 13 January 2011 - 05:53 PM

i'm so sorry carla.... :heart:

#33 cj

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Posted 13 January 2011 - 09:29 PM

tomorrow at 6:30

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Posted 13 January 2011 - 10:39 PM

i'm sorry Carla :heart: we love them so....... keep the happy memories close, alllll the way back to the beginning of the journey you two shared. they help so much and they're the important part. :heart:

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Posted 14 January 2011 - 07:04 PM

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Posted 14 January 2011 - 07:06 PM

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#37 cj

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Posted 14 January 2011 - 11:14 PM

kev left with bj a few minutes ago. i'm heartbroken.

#38 pixiebug

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Posted 15 January 2011 - 01:57 PM

i'm so sorry Carla :heart: it's never easy asking your "kids" to wait for you at the Rainbow Bridge, but BJ will be there. He'll run up to you when you see him there and he'll purr and rub against your legs like he did when he was a younger kitty, full of energy and all that kitty goodness.... :heart:

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Posted 15 January 2011 - 03:43 PM

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(((cj, freerange, Jeremy)))

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Posted 15 January 2011 - 03:44 PM

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#41 cj

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Posted 20 February 2011 - 01:20 AM

thank you thank you thank you for all of the love and support, everyone. it has been just over a month now, and i am finally ready to acknowledge the whole thing. your kind words and sympathy, and empathy touched our hearts. that and the outpouring of love and sadness from all of the people who knew bj helped us to get through the hardest thing we have ever had to do.

i still can barely think of the day and the following days. i don't want to because it is so raw. so many emotions, and guilt over the past few years -- i was so allergic to him after i had jeremy that i could barely touch him, and there were times when i had to gate our room so he wouldn't sleep on our bed. *sigh*

we still see him everywhere -- everything has the capability of looking like beej, a sweater left on the couch, or a pillow on the floor in front of the heater (jeremy leaves them there a lot, he sits there like bj did.) and we still hear him, a creak on the stairs that sounds like him walking down them. all of my neural pathways in this house involve him.

i watched him walk into our living room at the time of his death.

gah. i miss him. so much that if i think of it too closely i can't breathe.

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Posted 20 February 2011 - 01:47 AM

The first "most difficult thing" I ever did in my life was to put down my 19 yo Siamese cat, Erin, that had been with me since I was an infant. My mother couldn't do it, so it fell on me. At 19. Absolutely heart-wrenching, but it was the right thing to do. She was a wonderful companion and best friend.

I now have two cats - 14 yo and 8 yo. Delia, the oldest, is Siamese and pretty healthy, but showing her age. It is going to be a horrible day when she eventually passes. The younger cat, Cassady, is a very needy cat and loves her so much, as do I. I can't imagine them both not piling on me at every opportunity.

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Posted 20 February 2011 - 03:46 AM

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