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#1 Karen

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Posted 11 July 2009 - 03:15 AM

As many of you may already know, I've been struggling with the wedding thing for a few months now....

We have always wanted to elope and have an intimate ceremony with just the two of us. THen the family convinced us to have a wedding and we agreed. However, so many things came up with family and work that we postponed a few times.

A couple of weeks ago we decided that getting married at the Vibes was what we really wanted....

However it turns out that Universal Life ministers are not legally recognized in CT. Sigh. ..

SO. We are now thinking we may make a quick run to city hall in CT and get married and then have a wonderful intimate 'ceremony' at the Vibes. However, once we get married at city hall, we are already married and what is the point of having another ceremony at the Vibes?

Dunno. I need your input ladies - please!

#2 Drop_o_Rain

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Posted 11 July 2009 - 11:43 AM

The point would be to celebrate and to do things exactly how you want to do them......
why not "get married" at the Vibes and then just "go sign paperwork" at City Hall to make that marriage ceremony legal?

#3 PeaceDude17

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Posted 11 July 2009 - 12:46 PM

I definitely support the idea.
You don't have a lot of time to get things ready though!
You should buy all of the tickets you can so that your family can pay you back!
You can have there ceremony on the beach if you really wanted.
It sounds like a really nice plan, really!

Keep us updated I wanna know how its moving along. :)

#4 Karen

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Posted 11 July 2009 - 01:59 PM

Actually there isn't anything to get ready :)

We already have our tickets and we aren't inviting the family... we just need to get the marriage certificate which we are prepared already to get.

So it's just the decision of whether to do it twice - City Hall and the Vibes. Or as Drop o Rain suggested Vibes then City Hall (I like that idea!)

#5 musicmomma

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Posted 11 July 2009 - 05:09 PM

:clapping:


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#6 Wende

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Posted 12 July 2009 - 02:31 AM

Vibes and then City hall, absolutely.


Sounds perfect Karen.

So exciting. I can't wait to hear what happens with you and your wedding plans. I've been sitting on the edge of my seat just waiting to hear :lol:

#7 Karen

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Posted 12 July 2009 - 11:45 PM

Thanks Melissa! Thanks Wende!

I think I have the solution.....I called a Justice of the Peace and he is willing to come perform the ceremony at the Vibes. Just need to buy him a day ticket and we are ready to go!

YAY!

#8 Karen

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Posted 12 July 2009 - 11:45 PM

Vibes and then City hall, absolutely.


Sounds perfect Karen.

So exciting. I can't wait to hear what happens with you and your wedding plans. I've been sitting on the edge of my seat just waiting to hear :lol:



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#9 wabbit

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Posted 12 July 2009 - 11:48 PM

Sounds like you found the perfect solution.. I wish I could be there to witness!!

#10 Wende

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Posted 13 July 2009 - 02:03 AM

Wiseacre :wink: :funny1:


No, i'm serious. It's kind of been like a soap opera.

Ooooo, will it be this month they get married? ooooo, maybe this month.

I want details dammit.

~I kid. It'll be beautiful no matter what.

#11 PeaceDude17

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Posted 13 July 2009 - 02:06 AM

Aw awesome solution!
I'm sure everything will go great.
Congratulations on this new bond of lurrrrrrve<3<3

#12 Karen

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Posted 13 July 2009 - 03:07 AM

No, i'm serious. It's kind of been like a soap opera.

Ooooo, will it be this month they get married? ooooo, maybe this month.

I want details dammit.

~I kid. It'll be beautiful no matter what.


I know you are! That's what makes me giggle. It surely has been a bit 'soap opera-ish'.

Well, we are certainly hoping that we can pull this off. We have to make sure JP's daughter is okay with it. Currently I am on the East Coast on a business trip he is on the West Coast on a business trip - so we will speak to her when we get home on Wed night. See how complicated this can be? ;)

More to come this week....

Thanks for always giving advice, it's awesome!

BTW how is married life?

#13 Drop_o_Rain

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Posted 13 July 2009 - 03:29 AM

WOW!! THE JP coming there is awesome!!

#14 Wende

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Posted 13 July 2009 - 01:40 PM

Same. :lol:

Except we're broke from throwing a wedding/party. :lol:

#15 Jersey Thug

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Posted 13 July 2009 - 02:28 PM

YAY! so glad i don't have to keep this a secret any more :lol:

when Jay and Jenny (Phishfolk and Slave, Self Promoted) married in CT, Jason performed the ceremony and the JoP was there to sign off on it afterward, make it all CT-legal. so if you really want a friend to perform your ceremony, maybe the JoP would do the same for you?

yay, love :happyhappy:

#16 Erinisme

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Posted 13 July 2009 - 03:05 PM

oh please please please let me know when and where! long as I'm not working I'd love to take photos for you!

#17 Karen

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Posted 13 July 2009 - 04:43 PM

YAY! so glad i don't have to keep this a secret any more :lol:

when Jay and Jenny (Phishfolk and Slave, Self Promoted) married in CT, Jason performed the ceremony and the JoP was there to sign off on it afterward, make it all CT-legal. so if you really want a friend to perform your ceremony, maybe the JoP would do the same for you?

yay, love :happyhappy:


As usual my dear, you are brilliant!
I just love that idea and will run it by JP tonight!
I am glad you don't have to keep the secret anymore either

#18 Karen

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Posted 13 July 2009 - 04:43 PM

oh please please please let me know when and where! long as I'm not working I'd love to take photos for you!

Erin that would be so awesome! Friday - 2pm :)

#19 TEO

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Posted 15 July 2009 - 12:56 AM

As Universal Life Minstries was not recognized in NYC at the time, I also became Ordained by Rose Ministries. I have seen you two together, the mutual love and respect is evident each time you look at one another. :heart:

#20 Karen

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Posted 15 July 2009 - 04:10 AM

As Universal Life Minstries was not recognized in NYC at the time, I also became Ordained by Rose Ministries. I have seen you two together, the mutual love and respect is evident each time you look at one another. :heart:


Wow thanks for sharing this! :heart: We've heard this from many people and it just makes us :) and it reminds us each time we hear it that we are truly meant to be together. To have kind folks like yourself bear witness to our love is so wonderful!

We are thrilled to bits that we are marrying where we met - the magical Vibes!

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#21 funseeker7

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Posted 15 July 2009 - 04:26 AM

Hi Karen,
I am going to the vibes and I am an ordained Minister through the Alliance of Divine Love, and I can marry in any state...I live in VT and was the officiant for a wedding in Maine 2 years ago...if your justice of the Peace doesn't work out, let me know

#22 LisaMarie

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Posted 15 July 2009 - 01:28 PM

This is going to be a truly special and memorable Vibes. It is such a blessing to have witnessed you and JP grow as a couple.

#23 Karen

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Posted 16 July 2009 - 04:11 PM

This is going to be a truly special and memorable Vibes. It is such a blessing to have witnessed you and JP grow as a couple.



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#24 Karen

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Posted 19 July 2009 - 03:41 AM

Things are shaping up! We have arranged for a JOP to come to the Vibes to marry us :) We just found a wedding ceremony and vows online to use and now we just have to get our marriage license in Bridgeport on Wednesday. Friday is the big day and we're leaning towards having the ceremony on the beach weather permitting. Otherwise it'll be at our campsite :)

I am so excited!!!! :heart:

#25 Spidergawd

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Posted 19 July 2009 - 02:50 PM

I am getting super duper excited too!!! All this time has passed with several failed attempts - this is just so perfect! Thanks to all for the love we've been getting; it really makes us feel happy and special.

I've found the perfect partner. The yin to my yang, so to speak. I never thought I'd meet anyone as ideally compatible with me, and I daresay Karen thinks the same thing. What a treat to finalize our bond with our dear friends, and at the very place we met!

The only other thing I can say at the moment is YAY!!!!

:heart: :heart: :heart:

#26 LisaMarie

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Posted 20 July 2009 - 09:19 PM

Whoo-ee! Ride me high
Tomorrow's the day
My bride's gonna come
Oh, oh, are we gonna fly
Down in the easy chair!


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#27 Jersey Thug

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Posted 20 July 2009 - 09:31 PM

YAY love!!!!! :cheer:

so so so happy for you two!

#28 Limie

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Posted 20 July 2009 - 09:41 PM

awww.....this thread is beautiful and makes my heart sing!

Congratulations! <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3

#29 Karen

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Posted 21 July 2009 - 01:33 PM

Wow, it's almost here. We are counting the days until Friday!
Cross your fingers for a window of good weather at 2pm...

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Thanks all!

#30 vinandtonic

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Posted 21 July 2009 - 02:19 PM

:heart: best of luck to you!!

#31 Sunny Sunshine

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Posted 29 July 2009 - 12:48 PM

Congrats!!! :heartbounce:

#32 georgi

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Posted 29 July 2009 - 01:14 PM

Congratulations!!! :heart:

#33 Geminimoon

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Posted 18 July 2010 - 01:52 PM

That sounds awesome!

#34 Karen

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Posted 20 July 2010 - 04:27 PM

That sounds awesome!


It was awesome!
I can't believe our 1st anniversary is almost here!!

#35 Geminimoon

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Posted 20 July 2010 - 06:41 PM

It was awesome!
I can't believe our 1st anniversary is almost here!!


What a perfect way to always celebrate your anniversary :maried:

#36 Karen

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Posted 21 July 2010 - 01:15 AM

What a perfect way to always celebrate your anniversary :maried:


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