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[YogaMermaid]

Some of the worst dates I have ever been on in my life were from dating websites.
There's A LOT of false advertisement.

[Joe]

Some of the worst dates I have ever been on in my life were from dating websites.
There's A LOT of false advertisement.

I'm not a fan of that, I don't know why people can't just be honest with who they are. I mean they obviously want to possibly meet someone to be a potential mate, why not be honest.

Fake people suck.

[TakeAStepBack]

^ It's true, but also can give some funny stories to share.

Once I went out with a girl from a dating site that was missing a front tooth.

Moral of that story: Make sure they give you a smiling photo. Smiling photo or no date!

[YogaMermaid]

OMG, don't even get me started. Make sure to check/ask about height. I weight on a date once with a handsome midget (to be polite). We never cross paths again, and um yah, I got really drunk.

[TakeAStepBack]

I believe little person is the PC description.



I've been on several with people who have zero social skills. Which is probably why they were on the site in the first place. I mean, how can you get to know someone if you just sit there and stare??

[YogaMermaid]

Well excuse me....I went on a date with a 'little person.'

Oh pah-lease, I could write a book about all of the uncomfortable horendous dates I went on before being in the relationship I am in now.

One guy (whom I had exchanged multiple pictures with)...decided to tell me that I am not really his type, and proceeded by pointing out to me other gals whom are more his type. I got up and left.

Another guy went into explicit detail as to why he was in jail, and it was because of domestic violence. Excuse me while I run away from you as fast as possible?

Another guy was in an actual relationship, and never revealed that until I found out later...that was a low blow.

One guy claimed that him and his gf broke up half a year ago, yet all her stuff was at his place, and he had a girly toilet seat, and a potrait of her in his kitchen. Hello liar.

I could go on and on and on.

[TakeAStepBack]

[Joe]

I could go on and on and on.

Oh please do

[cdrhead]

The girl I had a date with yesterday said the same thing. She had some good stories about bad dates. I guess I really was lucky because she seemed very normal and she was very good looking...even in scrubs.

[Joe]

The girl I had a date with yesterday said the same thing. She had some good stories about bad dates. I guess I really was lucky because she seemed very normal and she was very good looking...even in scrubs.

Scrubs hu. Nice

[Geminimoon]

I have had my share....
False pictures, false information.... but I am happy to say that I found David on a dating website and I am very very happy.

So if is one in 5 million that are honest... I found that one!

[vinandtonic]

Very true.. you kinda have to wonder too, WHY she's on the dating site.. I try to figure that question out as quick as I can.. If we have similar reasons for using it, then thats cool. look into her life.

the same could be said about you...just sayin'

[Heady]

I'm not really sure what you mean.. but one of the first things I tell people is that I'm new to town, and looking to meet new people. I think thats pretty normal. I don't live near any cool bars, and I'm not trying to pick up a chick at a bar anyway. There's no way for me to meet an interesting girl in a reasonable time frame without doing this

[vinandtonic]

I understand..you just made it sound like 'what's wrong with her that she's on a dating website?" but now I get where you're coming from

[Heady]

the more I talk to people, the more I'm learning almost everyone has done this at one point or another..

my sister met her husband online.. its becoming more normal everyday to try it

[cdrhead]

My date for the weekend fell through, she wasn't feeling up for it. Seems like she might still want a date....Who knows ?

I am going to call the scrubs girl today to see if we can go for number two

Not much going on other than that. I have not gotten very many messages from singlesnet lately. I'm looking forward to that running out ....guess I'm just not in that big a rush to get tied up

[Heady]

awesome, good luck on the call!! get her done!!

I am meeting a chick this week I've been talking to. SUPER excited. She matches closest to my lifestyle (outdoorsy in a big way) AND shes pretty attractive taboot. Could be a match, we shall see!

[YogaMermaid]

Heady, once you sloooooooooooooooow down...you will meet the right chick.
That is if you are interested in even meeting the 'right' chick.

Good luck!

[Heady]

I'm doing fine.. I am not getting romantically involved with anyone I'm meeting so far so I see no harm in this whatsoever, well other than one person who I continue to see on a regular basis and is pefectly fine with seeing other people. I'm not getting involved in a relationship with the wrong person.

[YogaMermaid]

Of course you're doing fine.
What I was trying to say that if you take out the time to slow down and pursue only what you want, then it should be less depression after one-night-stands. (verbatim from other thread you posted).

[lost-in-boston]

didn't read the whole thread but "dating site" reminded me of when I moved to NJ and joined OK Cupid to find a new guy, as things were um wierd in my dating life...
The fucking thing told me that me and Andrew were 85% compatible. Um, no shit dickhead
Funny thing was, I had no idea he was on there

[Janine H]

The last guy I met on ok cupid was rated a 95% match, turned out to be an unemployed ex-con living with his mother...maybe I should reevaluate my profile?

[Heady]

Of course you're doing fine.
What I was trying to say that if you take out the time to slow down and pursue only what you want, then it should be less depression after one-night-stands. (verbatim from other thread you posted).

You are right there.. although that wasn't someone i met off a dating site, I met her at a bar in Denver. Not sure if that matters, I do know what you mean

[TakeAStepBack]

OKStupid is a great one for mind boggle and laughs.
There is no way anyone was getting me to pay for such a thing.


"Maybe so, maybe not."

[Joe]

I actually just started talking to a girl from OKstupid. Shes from Boston and also went to school in RI like I did. She seems like a nice girl, we also seem to have a lot of stuff in common. Its also nice that she contacted me first.

So after a week now of talking we are going to meet up for dinner Thursday and see how it goes. If anything she seems like she would be a good person to be friends with.

[cdrhead]

I left scrubs girl a message and she called me back tonight. We have a second date for drinks next week.

[Heady]

thats it boys!! nice.. I have a Fri date rock climbing and the bar after.. a little ambitious considering its a first date but we've been talking and this is just the stuff we both like to do so we're going for it. Sat night another date, second date xmas party at a hotel.. if it's all night, it's got to be allright! wedge a thur/sun sandwich with the only girl I'm actually romantically involved with. Even I can't believe I'm dating 3 girls at once Oh well, ya only live once

[Joe]

Sounds like you have a busy weekend. Climbing seems like a fun date idea, it will definitely give you something to bond about over dinner. Also its just a fun thing to do in general.

Mines a bit more mellow. Thursday dinner/date, Friday Rail Road Earth, the rest of the weekend is open.

[Heady]

Nice! that sounds like a great start to the weekend.. I kind of want to check her out.. if you pm me your date I'll pm you mine all 3 of them

Really though, I hope this one goes better than the last!! Are you gonna pay or split it or just see how it goes?

[Joe]

Really though, I hope this one goes better than the last!! Are you gonna pay or split it or just see how it goes?

I'll most likely pay for it since I try to be a gentlemen at all times. But if I really see it going bad then I have no problem saying lets split it.

Personally I think this date will be better, I'm not going into this one with any expectations. My only thought will be to just have a good conversation and a tasty dinner. Last date there was to much on the table and expectations a head of time. I think in general if you keep in mind your just looking to enjoy your time with the person and see how it flows you'll be fine. I'm starting to learn that's the key to this whole dating thing. Most of all I know in the end when things work out, they will when its right.

[Heady]

Nice. good mind set! I wish i had $ to be a gentlemen.. luckily the girl I am seeing most is broke herself and we are forced to find creative ways to have fun.. shopping at thrift stores, staying home making a fire and reading.. making tea..

she asked me what I was doing Fri... I thought I was gonna have to tell her about my other date, but I simply said going climbing, and that was it. Not sure when I should tell her I'm still going out on dates. Like I said though, I'm not hooking up with anyone else until we decide where we stand. I'm not rushing that, which also means I'm not rushing anyone else into anything, which is working fine

[Joe]

To be honest its a need not know basis. You don't need to say or do anything until you feel that your going somewhere with this girl. Right now your not committed to anyone.

[YogaMermaid]

:funny1:Oooooooooh, oh, oh.
How could I forget.
You can also add to my last the psycho dude whom I went on a date with...he talked about his ex the ENTIRE time...then I went home and never heard from him again.
A year goes by, and he sends me an apologetic e-mail telling me what a cool girl I am how he regrets not having moved forward with me.
Can someone say 12 step program?
I am so glad that the online dating world book for me has been officially closed.

[Joe]

This is really my first time with online dating. To tell you the truth the last 3 girls I dated and was serious with, I met here because of this message board. Either they were friends with someone form the board or I met them at a boardie party, etc. The last girl I dated over the summer I met through a friend of mine. So this online thing is all new to me.

I seem to have better luck with board girls, any takers? I am available?

[Heady]

who hasn't dated someone from the boards?

[Bonsai]

So last night was a interesting night. Well I met up with this girl that I met the first weekend here in DC. She calls me last week saying she wanted to see me again. Well the conversation through the week lead to the point of she really liked me and thought we were a good match. I mean conversation just flowed between us. I could tell there really was something positive between us.

So last night we met up at a Moroccan Restaurant. Things went great, we talked about future fun things to do, she held my hand, and even got nice good bye kiss. So here I was thinking everything went really well.

Well I get a txt message when she got home saying that she wasn't interested in being more then friends and doesn't want to date right now. Mean while all last week she telling me shes happy she met me that I'm a good guy with a good heart. That I was what she was looking for, for a relationship. She wants to be with me.

I mean that's fine if shes not interested but don't lead me on. To top it off don't make an effort to hold my hand and then proceed to make out with me.

That's bullshit and sucks. I'm sorry. I had a guy do this to me somewhat recently. Makes it really hard to believe the next person who says they're really into you. I don't believe in leading people on. It's even worse when they're the one who instigated everything.

I've never used a dating website. Not my thing.

[cdrhead]

I deleted my profile on singlesnet just before they charged me for another month. Thanks to Simon for the heads up on that. I didn't know it would automaticly charge me again....read the fine print !!!!!!! I caught it before they got me

[Joe]

That's bullshit and sucks. I'm sorry. I had a guy do this to me somewhat recently. Makes it really hard to believe the next person who says they're really into you. I don't believe in leading people on. It's even worse when they're the one who instigated everything.

I've never used a dating website. Not my thing.

Yep it did suck. Your right I'm a bit more cautious now. Not that I wasn't before. In highnsight I should have been more cautious in the first place and not let her lead me on in the 1st place. I definitely let let my excitement get the best of me........

I deleted my profile on singlesnet just before they charged me for another month. Thanks to Simon for the heads up on that. I didn't know it would automaticly charge me again....read the fine print !!!!!!! I caught it before they got me

Yeah they are tricky bastards, you need to really watch the fine lines. Also make sure you got a receipt that your account is canceled and deleted.

[Heady]

I definitely let let my excitement get the best of me........

welcome to my world!

So, this is kind crazy..... I've been chatting online with this girl who by far is closest to "my type" of anyone I have met online in the month I've been doing this. She is into the outdoors -in the same way I am- shes skis, alot.. hikes.. alot.. climbs.. alot. etc. She has a really interesting job which she likes and also helps out underpriviledged Native American communities.. and this is the kicker, last night she told me she was half Jewish. She's also half Italian, which is hot. She was raised without honoring any religion, though her Italian mom encouraged her to seek out Judiasm (which is on her dads side.) I didn't know any of this until last night. I set up a phone call, bc we have a date on Friday, and I thought it would make both of us more comfortable if we spoke on the phone first. Definitely builds a stronger dynamic before actually meeting. One final strong point, I LOVE her voice. It is soothing to me. Once we hung up (after talking for 2.5 hours) I fell into a very peaceful sleep. If she's as hot in real life as she is in her photos, I think I may fall in love! ohhh booy

On Friday, we're gonna go for a hike if the weathers nice, rock climb indoors if its not, then go to a Shabbat dinner in town. She said going to Shabbat is slighty "out of her comfort zone" which I take to be a good thing. I have had friends join me at Shabbats who weren't Jewish and they always enjoyed themselves.

I don't want to have too high of hopes with her, but she has many stars aligned here. We have already talked about ski trips together! Too fast? I don't know but I'm excited!

[Joe]

Keep calm and just have fun. Keep in your mind you don't want to scare her off with to much of a forward vibe. You need to have a happy medium. But then again what the hell do I know. I suck at this whole dating thing.

Tonights my date/hanging out. Last night we decided on this sushi resturant/bar. I figure this much if things don't work out I'm getting a good meal tonight and some tasty Sapporo to wash it down. Win Win in my mind.

Whats Shabbats?

[Heady]

Right on. I already told her during chat that I'm not going to make any moves on her, we aren't actually calling this a date, etc etc.. I also told her I'm not gay I suppose you could get the wrong impression. Hell, I've already sung her the roadtrip song! haha (stupid thing I sing when I get excited about roadtrips)

Shabbat is the day of rest for the Jewish people. It last from sundown Friday to sundown Sat. Friday night is the traditional Shabbat dinner with prayer, food and song. It's something all Jewish people should try atleast once, and is even enjoyable if you're not Jewish. There is nothing wrong in my book with a non-Jew honoring the "day of rest." I think the world might be a more peaceful place, if everyone had their own version of it.

By the way, I think Sushi is probably the best first date meal. It's not messy, you don't gorge yourself, you can look smart while eating it/ordering it, and its some tasty shit. Get some saki and a Kirin! Enjoy!!

[Joe]

Shabbat is the day of rest for the Jewish people. It last from sundown Friday to sundown Sat. Friday night is the traditional Shabbat dinner with prayer, food and song. It's something all Jewish people should try atleast once, and is even enjoyable if you're not Jewish. There is nothing wrong in my book with a non-Jew honoring the "day of rest." I think the world might be a more peaceful place, if everyone had their own version of it.

Oh yeah I knew that, I thought you meant it was a Jewish Restaurant or something by you.

[Heady]

hmmmm, interesting idea my friend the "Shabbat Diner" ? the name is possibly offensive but the idea could be gold!

[Joe]

Heady you go through profile pictures like you go through women. What are you up to changing it once a day now?????

[sarah b.]

she's probably afraid you're orthodox, or something. she'll figure it out real fast. (which isn't to say that orthodox guys are necessarily physically not forward, or anything )

[TakeAStepBack]

who hasn't dated someone from the boards?

Me. Never have, never will.

[YogaMermaid]

Me. Never have, never will.

Ditto.

[Heady]

Heady you go through profile pictures like you go through women. What are you up to changing it once a day now?????

Now you see a common thread to my ADD. I probably need drugs and this would all be solved real fast

YEAH RIGHT!

[Joe]

Ahhhhh ADD

[Joe]

Update from last night.

Well things went really well. We both felt a click/chemistry between us. The sushi restaurant idea worked out to be a perfect decision. In a summery we wound up staying at the restaurant for over 3 hours talking. When I got home we talked some more online and made plans for Saturday night. So yep a second date.

What was nice about this date was we both went into it with no pressure or anticipation. Finally a normal laid back person with a good personality. Obviously I don't know her that well yet, but so far so good.