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#1 jme

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Posted 17 May 2013 - 04:54 PM

So not too long ago my favorite sports blogger at Deadspin started writing articles about his kids, and raising them in this horror-verse with millions of miserable asshole people and other parents, and their kids.  and it's amazing.  I love the way this dude writes, and I have shared some of his sports stuff (hater's guide to the olympics) on the family board, but this one is right up the parenting alley.

 

I haven't run into this much yet, since my oldest is only 2, but other parents at sports, dance, community like teams, events, and whatnot give me insane amounts of anxiety for the future.

 

 

 

http://deadspin.com/...rents-507454898

 

 

 

 

The Hater's Guide To Other Parents

I am not the greatest parent in the world. In fact, I wrote an entire book coming out today that indisputably proves that statement. I have been arrested. I have yelled at my children. I have experimented with odd forms of corporal punishment. And I have conspired with my children to commit petty misdemeanors. All of that is bad. But I can comfort myself with knowing that, despite my many shortcomings, I am NOT the worst parent on Earth. Far from it.

 

Parenting is like driving in that everyone else out there seems to suck at it. Other parents are the WORST. Not only do they suck, but they suck in so many different ways! It's a veritable feast of horrific childrearing out there. And watching these other miserable parents in action helps me accept my own faults as a husband and father. In fact, so long as I'm not the worst, I see no reason to change my habits at all. So kudos to these 10 strains of miserable shiteaters who never should have spawned to begin with:

 

 

1. That lady who drops her kids off at the playground and then goes for a run. What are you doing? Seriously, what in the living fuck are you doing? You can't just LEAVE your kids at the playground. Who's gonna look after them? Who's gonna chew them out if they start strangling other kids with a swing chain? I swear there are parents who do this, and they are AWFUL. They usually do it with older kids, and that makes it even worse, because older kids are assholes. There are a dozen 5-year-olds at the playground and then one FAT AS SHIT 11-year-old bulldozing over all of them.

 

You should be jailed for this. It's criminal behavior. This is not a commune. You can't just leave your kid there and expect the rest of us to pick up the slack. If you moron kid ends up falling from the monkey bars and busting his elbow, I'm not calling for help. I'm letting his arm die and watching the wet gangrene set in. And then, when you come back from your little run, I'm gonna say, "Oh, did you have a nice jog? GUESS WHAT, ASSHOLE, YOUR SON IS AN AMPUTEE NOW."

 

 

2. Parents who refuse to wipe the boogers off their kid's face. Every public gathering of children includes at least one child who is clearly suffering from stage XVI pneumonia, and his mom dragged him out of the house because she's a monster. These kids have snot POURING out of their nose. You could see the boogers from space, they're so conspicuous. And the mom will just stand there and do NOTHING. She'll let the kid smear the snot on his shirt and wipe it on his hand and lick it off his hand, and he'll go around sticking his fingers in other kids' mouths and laughing, as if the spread of sheep flu is somehow charming. This is repugnant. I shouldn't be forced to look at other children's boogers when I'm enjoying a sunny day. My boogers are fun to play with but other people's boogers are HORRIFYING, and they're spreading Black Plague all over the climbing wall. Get Kleenex.

 

 

3. The Misery Parent. According to the great Spencer Hall, this is:

An anxious person with children who just wants their panic to go viral. "Where are you sending him for elementary school?" "The taxes are so high here!" "I'm sending him to Chinese class, because I want him to be able to suck up to our new overlords." I actually had another father say this to me: "We have to buy a house with a master suite on the ground floor, because this is the last house I am going to live in." And I was like LOL YOU THINK YOU KNOW WHEN AND WHERE YOU'RE GONNA DIE.

This is a close relation to the "Did you hear about...?" parent, the one who needs to inform you right this moment that another kid in school has died, or that there's a flu outbreak ("Something's going around!"), or that the school is outlawing pencils next year.

 

 

4. The Interrogator. "Is he sleeping through the night? Does he breastfeed? What kind of formula do you use? Did you apply for nursery school yet? There's already a waiting list, did you know that? Is he circumcised? What do you think he'll major in? What do his vaccination records look like? IS GOD DEAD?" Like anyone, I sometimes fumble around for conversation topics when forced into awkward situations with other parents. But there's no need to make this a full-on job interview. Let's just be awkwardly silent for a bit until this birthday party is over. It's OK.

 

 

5. People who have extended fights with their kids in public. I went to a pool once and this one lady fought with her kids the whole time. Like, real loud fighting. Her little daughter smacked her face and she started screaming at her, "YOU HURT ME SO BADLY, DEVLYNN*! I AM SO ANGRY!" This went on for, like, three hours. Holy shit, lady. Leave the pool. Remove your kids from the situation. At least when I scream at my kids and threaten to lock them in the hole, I do it in private.

(* I can't remember the girl's actual name, but I picked DEVLYNN because people suck at naming their kids now.)

 

 

 

6. Aggressive drivers in the school parking lot. Dude, it's a SCHOOL. What are you doing?

 

 

7. Anything Goes parents. I went to a playground once and near the playground was a bike path that had been soaked with rain from the day before. There was a giant puddle filled with mud that bikers would go blasting through every five minutes, and there were three or four kids with their socks and shoes off just FROLICKING in this shit. They were dredging up mud with their hands and throwing it at each other and painting their stupid faces with it. This was not an intended playground attraction, mind you. This was an open sewer. There could have been used syringes in there. And the parents just stood there and let their kids be filthy and horrible. And the worst part was that my kids saw these other kids pulling a Woodstock and were like, "We wanna go in there!" And I'm like, "No. That's dirty." Then one of the other moms gave me a mean look. Fuck you, lady. I'm allowed to call a giant pond of bus leakage dirty. Hope your kid enjoys hepatitis B.

 

 

8. "I'm just an asshole who's on the phone the WHOLE time." Children are boring. I get it. After 12 minutes of hanging out with them, I check my text messages like anyone else. I'm only human. But after a while, I feel guilty and put it away for at least four minutes before checking it again. There are people out there who suffer no such guilt. They'll just whip out the phone and stay on the thing for hours and hours. They're like the parent who goes for jog, only they're RIGHT THERE, which makes it doubly infuriating. They aren't on active duty. They aren't there to race across the playground and prevent their asshole kid from pissing on the seesaw. That falls to me in between Twitter breaks. No parent likes additional parenting duty. I'm trying to do LESS work with children, not more. I'm not a sap.

 

 

9. Parents who want their children to have "every advantage" possible. I was in a parent-teacher conference at my nursery school and one of the dads kept asking the teacher what the school was doing to make sure the kids were being "more competitive." The students in question were 2 years old. These are the kind of rabid lunatics who are driving the school-tuition arms race. They're the people plunking down $32,000 a year so that the kid can get into the fancy elementary school that feeds into the fancy middle school that feeds into the fancy high school that feeds into Duke. They always want what's "best" for the kids.

That's what you're continually sold every time you have to plunk down thousands for a school or for the fanciest doctor in town. The implication is that you're failing as a parent if you dare give them the second-best option, and lots of moron parents buy into it. Never mind that the "best" school is a subjective matter. These parents just want to cover their asses. They want to say: "OK, I did all I could. If the kid ends up huffing paint, it's not my fault." Meanwhile, the kid turns into an entitled twat. Every school and intramural sports team is what you make of it. Ain't no shame in going to the SECOND-best school. A resourceful, well-raised kid will find a way to excel anyway. They make their own advantages. So just sit back and chill out.

 

 

10. Ariel Castro. Boy, he does NOT seem like a good dad.

 



#2 jnjn

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Posted 17 May 2013 - 05:54 PM

toooooo funny :lol:

 

i swear i have way too much anxiety to ever have children...i would drop dead from the stress & anxiety :lol:

speaking of...any time i hear or read about some child related recall, i tell every single parent i work with & i don't even care about these people!  yes, i am nuts :funny1:



#3 Depends

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Posted 17 May 2013 - 05:56 PM

When my kids were smaller, we would have parents drop off their kids at a birthday party, and they would take off like we were the built in baby sitter.  3 year olds!.  With a bunch of other 3 year olds running around.  



#4 jnjn

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Posted 17 May 2013 - 06:00 PM

When my kids were smaller, we would have parents drop off their kids at a birthday party, and they would take off like we were the built in baby sitter.  3 year olds!.  With a bunch of other 3 year olds running around.  

 

i hope you did it right back to them when their kids birthday came around :lol:



#5 Mama Kel

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Posted 19 May 2013 - 03:11 AM

:rotf: I am the anything goes parent w kids in a mud puddle! Funny stuff!

#6 georgi

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Posted 20 May 2013 - 01:19 PM

I'd like to punch #4's in the face. :lol:



#7 Mama Kel

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Posted 21 May 2013 - 12:11 AM

I hear ya! I don't really deal with it anymore cuz mine are older, but competitive parenting is ridiculous! Next time someone tells you their 20 month old 'knows' their ABC's (meaning they can sing the ABC song) say yeah Emelia can sing the itsy bitsy spider - it's about as meaningful! :lol:



#8 georgi

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Posted 21 May 2013 - 05:17 PM

I have to laugh, because one of my friends who will be having a baby soon, she's all "I'm going to do this and this and not this and that and this", and she's so condescending about it, and I just want to be like, STFU, you have NO clue about any of this. :lol:

 

She's totally a #4 and she doesn't even have a kid yet. :lol:



#9 bigtoddy

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Posted 21 May 2013 - 06:27 PM

Parenting is more art and nuance of nudging the kids into the right direction, rather than heavy handed steering. Its also refreshing to accept that we are all upper lower middle class, and that we might as well enjoy our mediocrity rather than fight upstream our entire life. People who are going to do great things are going to irregardless of fancy pants nursery schools.



#10 hoagie

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Posted 21 May 2013 - 07:50 PM

irregardless

 

love this non-werd



#11 bigtoddy

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Posted 21 May 2013 - 08:18 PM

flammable= easy to catch on fire

inflammable = easy to catch on fire.

 

Its kind of like that.



#12 hoagie

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Posted 21 May 2013 - 08:24 PM

Kids suck, but shitty parents suck twice as hard.



#13 Wende

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Posted 29 May 2013 - 07:37 PM

everyone's a shitty parent.  We all fuck up our kids one way or another.  It's trying to fuck them up differently then your parents fucked you up that is key.

:lol:



#14 Raynequeen

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Posted 31 May 2013 - 01:40 PM

totally true wende.

i think if you get one more thing right than your parents did... youre winning

one generation at a time ha 



#15 Geminimoon

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Posted 01 June 2013 - 07:30 PM

That was one of the funniest things I have ever read.

Please keep them coming.

#16 Wende

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Posted 02 June 2013 - 03:18 AM

Like my first born.  I had no idea what I was doing...thought I did.  Now, he's an adult and he's ME.  Doing things I used to do, and it's pretty damn scary.  But hey, he's not doing any of the fucked up things my parents did to me....so, I'll take that as a win.  :lol:

There's always those times I say "Gosh, if I did this differently, or that, maybe he wouldn't be doing these things" 

All I can hope is....he learns from those things I did, and doesn't do them with his kids.  :)

Not funny, it's true. :)