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#1 Ravn

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Posted 27 March 2013 - 06:30 PM

she locked herself in the  bathroom and slit her wrists

 

please send thoughts, prayers, vibes

 

I have never heard my Dad cry before, and I'm almost 40



#2 Spidergawd

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Posted 27 March 2013 - 06:32 PM

:(  Oh man, I'm sorry to hear that, PA.  Big hugs and lots of positive energy.  :heart:

 

You holding up as well as possible, I hope? 



#3 Depends

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Posted 27 March 2013 - 06:32 PM

So sorry to hear this



#4 DF

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Posted 27 March 2013 - 06:32 PM

<3 <3



#5 Tim the Beek

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Posted 27 March 2013 - 06:32 PM

Just <3



#6 SunshineDrummer

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Posted 27 March 2013 - 06:34 PM

Holy shit! 

 

Try & stay sane, Peg.  Sounds like you're dad's gonna need you.  :heart:



#7 Feck

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Posted 27 March 2013 - 06:34 PM

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#8 jnjn

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Posted 27 March 2013 - 06:43 PM

:heart: :heart: :heart:



#9 In A Silent Way

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Posted 27 March 2013 - 06:45 PM

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#10 Ravn

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Posted 27 March 2013 - 06:50 PM

thanks guys

 

JP, I'm doing what I can

 

my kids get off of the bus at the intersection my parents house is at (we live in the same subdivision), so they were all like "why is there an ambulance and a cop at Papa's house?"  and I told them Nona fell again, because I just can't deal with explaining it to them right now.  Mike has school tonight until 8pm, so my job is to be calm for my kids, take care of Dad's dogs, and make sure he has something to eat when he gets home.



#11 Spidergawd

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Posted 27 March 2013 - 07:04 PM

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#12 cassady

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Posted 27 March 2013 - 07:17 PM

<3 <3 <3 <3 <3



#13 Jwheelz

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Posted 27 March 2013 - 07:22 PM

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#14 MeOmYo

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Posted 27 March 2013 - 07:26 PM

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#15 TEO

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Posted 27 March 2013 - 07:36 PM

Love, Light & Inner Peace  :heart:



#16 Ravn

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Posted 27 March 2013 - 07:59 PM

As long as I don't think about my Dad crying, I'll be ok. I am almost 40
and have never heard my Dad cry
this is a man that did 2 tours in Vietnam, has 2 purple hearts and a bronze star,spent 28 years as an Army Ranger and he's just broken



#17 In A Silent Way

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Posted 27 March 2013 - 08:04 PM

I'd give you a hug, but hugs are gross and you're too far away. How about a non-creepy heart? :heart:

It's like they say ... "I know [insert divinity name here] doesn't give me more than I can handle, but who the fuck do you think you're working with here?"



#18 nancykind

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Posted 27 March 2013 - 08:22 PM

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#19 Ravn

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Posted 27 March 2013 - 08:45 PM

Thanks y'all  It really helps to come here and just read this thread. This is what I know as of right now. Mom tried to bait Dad into a fight, he just wouldn't do it. So then she started yelling about how he's sleeping with Linda, and how he and Butch are planning to take all of her stuff, and she's going to sue Linda for touching her meds, and when he was just like "whatever" she locked herself in their bedroom, slit her wrist and threatened to kill him. Dad called 911 because his hunting rifle is in their bedroom. The cop had to kick the bedroom door in, Melissa's girlfriend came (she's the EMS captain in our county), they had to restrain her, she was cussing and threatening them and calling my Dad, Mandy and Phil (cause of course the cop was a guy I went to HS with,,small fucking town) all kinds of bad names, and off she went. She got 19 stitches in her arm, and right now she's strapped down to a bed on some kind of looloo med. She's not getting out for a good long while, and the Dr. gave my Dad a bunch of info on long term care. I just got back from letting my Dad's dogs in, and I cleaned up the blood in the bathroom and the blood out of the bedroom carpet as best I could.



#20 Tim the Beek

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Posted 27 March 2013 - 09:02 PM

Thanks y'all  It really helps to come here and just read this thread. This is what I know as of right now. Mom tried to bait Dad into a fight, he just wouldn't do it. So then she started yelling about how he's sleeping with Linda, and how he and Butch are planning to take all of her stuff, and she's going to sue Linda for touching her meds, and when he was just like "whatever" she locked herself in their bedroom, slit her wrist and threatened to kill him. Dad called 911 because his hunting rifle is in their bedroom. The cop had to kick the bedroom door in, Melissa's girlfriend came (she's the EMS captain in our county), they had to restrain her, she was cussing and threatening them and calling my Dad, Mandy and Phil (cause of course the cop was a guy I went to HS with,,small fucking town) all kinds of bad names, and off she went. She got 19 stitches in her arm, and right now she's strapped down to a bed on some kind of looloo med. She's not getting out for a good long while, and the Dr. gave my Dad a bunch of info on long term care. I just got back from letting my Dad's dogs in, and I cleaned up the blood in the bathroom and the blood out of the bedroom carpet as best I could.


Cleanup had to be hard. Yer a good daughter. <3



#21 shadeelady

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Posted 27 March 2013 - 09:03 PM

oh gosh. all my love peg. :heart: :heart: :heart:

 

be strong. we are all here if you need us.



#22 Jabadoodle

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Posted 27 March 2013 - 09:13 PM

Your mom must be in a world of pain. It's spilling over onto you and your dad. I hope

you both find all the strength you need to help her to find her way out.  :heart:



#23 Karen

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Posted 27 March 2013 - 09:41 PM

Peg, I can't even imagine how difficult this is.  Thank goodness she is safe in the hospital :heart:

 

 

Sending lots of love to you and your dad and your whole familiy :heart:



#24 Kashmir

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Posted 27 March 2013 - 09:50 PM

Sending all my love :heart:

#25 TEO

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Posted 27 March 2013 - 10:19 PM

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#26 gregoir

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Posted 27 March 2013 - 11:23 PM

Love you Peg.   just do the best you can do.  :)



#27 Lemireacle

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Posted 27 March 2013 - 11:29 PM

Sending :heart: and vibrations positive!! :)

#28 nancykind

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Posted 27 March 2013 - 11:38 PM

deep breaths :heart:



#29 Kuzsin

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Posted 27 March 2013 - 11:41 PM

....tough situation....I wish you strength and support during this time.....



#30 wookie luvvah

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Posted 27 March 2013 - 11:46 PM

So sorry ......don't forget to take care of you too 



#31 Tabbooma

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Posted 28 March 2013 - 12:37 AM

<3



#32 RedSquirrel

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Posted 28 March 2013 - 12:40 AM

So sorry.  Sending love to you all 



#33 roo

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Posted 28 March 2013 - 01:18 AM

You said Nona ,you Greek?

#34 tyedyedee

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Posted 28 March 2013 - 01:27 AM

omg...i am so sorry...please make sure YOU are OK? you are excellent at taking care of others but you cant take care of them anymoreif you dont care of you :heart:

so much love to you and yours...



#35 Ravn

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Posted 28 March 2013 - 01:59 AM

Roo, Lebanese



#36 sarah b.

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Posted 28 March 2013 - 02:09 AM

Hang in there, mama. Just keep breathing.

 

PS: They usually tape the key to the restraints to the backs of the headboards. (if they're the old school leather kind) You may want to leave it there, this time. <3



#37 Kashmir

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Posted 28 March 2013 - 06:33 AM

So sorry ......don't forget to take care of you too

Excellent excellent advice :heart:

#38 manzanita stark

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Posted 28 March 2013 - 07:34 AM

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#39 Ravn

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Posted 28 March 2013 - 11:29 AM

there is a meeting this morning with a bunch of dr's with and about my Mom, at 9am.  We should know more after.

 

She's still so violent, aggressive and self harming that she's being kept sedated and restrained :(



#40 Spidergawd

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Posted 28 March 2013 - 12:01 PM

So sorry ......don't forget to take care of you too 

 

Yes indeed. 

 

Lots of love here for you, Peg.



#41 syd_25

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Posted 28 March 2013 - 01:04 PM

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#42 Karen

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Posted 28 March 2013 - 01:34 PM

She is probably very angry and disappointed in herself :(      (((Peg's Mom)))

 

May she find the strength to put one foot in front of the other on the path to healing.  She has a wonderful family in you and your dad and everyone else.   She'll get through this Peg :heart:    

 

Sending you big hugs honey!



#43 sums

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Posted 28 March 2013 - 02:43 PM

oh jeez. i'm just seeing this now... wow. :heart: :heart:



#44 Ravn

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Posted 28 March 2013 - 03:43 PM

omg, they let her have the phone and she called me what the fuck she hates my Dad, she's getting a divorce he's doing this because he wants to get rid of her she has to go into inpatient care where there will be no one to protect her because my Dad wants bad stuff to happen to her, she has to go before a judge (she actually does) she wants Linda arrested for touching her stuff without her permission, she hates my Dad, that fucking cop put restraints on her for no reason, everyone is out to get her blah blah blah

 

pass the gin



#45 Tim the Beek

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Posted 28 March 2013 - 03:45 PM

:( So sorry you're in the middle of all of this.

 

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#46 foo

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Posted 28 March 2013 - 03:49 PM

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#47 Ravn

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Posted 28 March 2013 - 04:14 PM

I'm just exhausted
Melissa is so %()&# mad she can't see straight
I haven't worked up the energy for mad yet
of course, she didn't call me a queer bitch that was out to get her
but I know my turn is coming


#48 SunshineDrummer

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Posted 28 March 2013 - 04:19 PM

I'm just exhausted
Melissa is so %()&# mad she can't see straight
I haven't worked up the energy for mad yet
of course, she didn't call me a queer bitch that was out to get her
but I know my turn is coming

 

Maybe its just the drugs and/or the detox talking?  I know that doesn't make it any easier to hear and I know I'd be just as angry & hurt in your shoes.  Here's hoping this part passes quickly & your mom can move on to the getting better phase.



#49 Karen

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Posted 28 March 2013 - 04:33 PM

My ex is an addict.   Was in rehab several times...I got many phone calls like this.    And accusations.   And threats.   The whole nine.

 

It's the addiction talking and it's hard not to take it personally.    Picture a blinking sign over her head that says 'withdrawing from drugs, may be irrational and super mean".      Please know that I am not minimizing this situation in ANY way.     I can't imagine going through this with my parent.   :(

 

 

This is temporary honey.  I promise.   XO     



#50 JBetty

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Posted 28 March 2013 - 04:33 PM

Oh Ravn - so sorry to hear this. 

Sounds like you're doing everything possible to help her.   :heart: