That's right. People want some kind of law passed so they feel better about what happened. They can say "See, we did something. YES WE DID!"
Even if that something only affects law abiding citizens and does nothing more to it's original intention. Which is exactly what it will come down to anyway.
No, I am suggesting having tough conversations, and compromising, so that something may get done. No one said there is an easy solution, but if everyone would work together, instead of finger pointing and blaming everyone else (as you stated is an america problem).
I stated, that if just 1 person does not die due to gun violence, then it is successful.
Now on to the irony of all your arguments. You want personal responsibility to be the starting point of any solution. That also means, voting, which you remove yourself because of the failures of the system. So, that would mean you would have to vote, and be part of the process, because that is part of the responsibility you refer to.