Would this indicate perhaps they should not be responsible for a childs well being?
just wondering
IF someone is "mentally ill"
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unbroken_chain
, Nov 28 2012 04:50 PM
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#4
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Posted 28 November 2012 - 05:38 PM
I"ll be blunt.
My ex, whom truly is a good friend and all that, has proclaimed that she is incapable of holding a job, and has serious mental defect.
My viewpoint may be, if you are THAT FUCKED UP, perhaps you are not the most suitable person for the task of being in charge of my 13 year old daughter.
Not looking to change anything... just sick of her bitching to me about $$$ when she is a pro at milkin it.
/end rant
simply put, get a fucking job, loser.
My ex, whom truly is a good friend and all that, has proclaimed that she is incapable of holding a job, and has serious mental defect.
My viewpoint may be, if you are THAT FUCKED UP, perhaps you are not the most suitable person for the task of being in charge of my 13 year old daughter.
Not looking to change anything... just sick of her bitching to me about $$$ when she is a pro at milkin it.
/end rant
simply put, get a fucking job, loser.
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Posted 28 November 2012 - 07:16 PM
I guess I'm lucky Gregoir never got me pregnant.
I guess I'm lucky Gregoir never got me pregnant.
Guess no one here ever saw "I Am Sam".
I don't think mental illness that obstructs regular or "normal" functioning necessarily precludes someone from being a good parent, but as with almost everything it's all situational and depends on the person. I have a friend that is having such horrible panic attacks that even going grocery shopping is debilitating, never mind holding a job. Should her children be taken from her? My opinion is it would be fucking criminal. Sure- this family has more challenges than many, -I don't see how splitting up the family helps the kids.
But I don't think that's the REAL question that chain has anyhow- because I think the REAL question has more to do with the fact that you think she doesn't have mental illness at all, and it's pissing you off- as it should.
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Posted 28 November 2012 - 07:18 PM
Sam had a fuckin job!!!!!!!
and trust me, she's ILL. But not so much she shouldnt be able to work.
if you can sit at a bar, you best be ready to foot the bill. or something.
what do I know. I'm an insane, overprotective father who never rec'd more than a couple hundred bucks in all the years I raised my kids SOLO. no mom, no sisters. Me. and two young ladies.
don't ge me wrong, I'm not mad bro. just releasin ze steam
and trust me, she's ILL. But not so much she shouldnt be able to work.
if you can sit at a bar, you best be ready to foot the bill. or something.
what do I know. I'm an insane, overprotective father who never rec'd more than a couple hundred bucks in all the years I raised my kids SOLO. no mom, no sisters. Me. and two young ladies.
don't ge me wrong, I'm not mad bro. just releasin ze steam
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Posted 28 November 2012 - 07:22 PM
I think the REAL question has more to do with the fact that you think she doesn't have mental illness at all, and it's pissing you off- as it should.
agreed.
has she decided this on her own, or has a physician diagnosed her with a condition that is resistant to treatment?
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Posted 28 November 2012 - 07:25 PM
agreed.
has she decided this on her own, or has a physician diagnosed her with a condition that is resistant to treatment?
oh she's "diagnosed" :rofl:
guaranfuckintee I could be too, if I wanted to be... anyway. no matter.
*none of this is to imply she's not a good person, or that she's an unfit mother... just a "u can't have it both ways" and I have been carrying the $$$ load since day one. The story is more complex as some may know.
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Posted 28 November 2012 - 07:38 PM
if she's faking mental illness to duck responsibility...i'd say that when seen from a distance, she does fall short of being a good role model for a young girl. that sucks for you, and sucks even more for your daughters who will learn more about their own roles as women from her than from any other person.
i'm sure you've tried everything you can think of to lessen the impact her illness/issues/whatever has had on your girls. i believe you had them both with you full-time at one point. maybe, given these new developments, it's time to consider that option again. or maybe not...only you know what's best for your family.
but it's not easy growing up in a house with an unstable parent.
i'm sure you've tried everything you can think of to lessen the impact her illness/issues/whatever has had on your girls. i believe you had them both with you full-time at one point. maybe, given these new developments, it's time to consider that option again. or maybe not...only you know what's best for your family.
but it's not easy growing up in a house with an unstable parent.
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Posted 28 November 2012 - 08:01 PM
I know that even though my 13 year old ~knows~ the score.... (I raised her from 6 to 11, exclusive of the time her mom and I were still together) she's happy where she is, and has her crew of friends, and while my ex is a fruit cake and certain traits that I notice in my girls make me shudder... I'm not looking to rock the boat any more than it has...
just want the bitch* to get a job.
in the most loving way, she's my ex bitch.... anyone else calls her a bitch and I cut them.
just want the bitch* to get a job.
in the most loving way, she's my ex bitch.... anyone else calls her a bitch and I cut them.
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Posted 29 November 2012 - 09:04 PM
If we were in Europe this conversation would be much different. Europeans are not defined, valued and portayed by their employment status. In fact in much of Europe it is considered rude if you're at a party to ask somebody you're meeting what s/he does for a living.
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VibeGuide
Posted 29 November 2012 - 09:10 PM
If we were in Europe this conversation would be much different. Europeans are not defined, valued and portayed by their employment status. In fact in much of Europe it is considered rude if you're at a party to ask somebody you're meeting what s/he does for a living.
That may be true if we were in Europe. But we're not.
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Posted 29 November 2012 - 09:11 PM
for one, it might be in a different language.
true
I made a major mistake at volunteering. I asked another volunteer take a Spanish language call. She has a spanish sounding name and looks like she might be Latina. She said "I only speak English, Italian and Portugese" doh! She was cool with it though.
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Posted 29 November 2012 - 09:19 PM
If we were in Europe this conversation would be much different. Europeans are not defined, valued and portayed by their employment status. In fact in much of Europe it is considered rude if you're at a party to ask somebody you're meeting what s/he does for a living.
that may be because Europe has something like a 40% unemployment rate
