Nice on the grades and the reward!
a brief comment about 17 year olds
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unbroken_chain
, Apr 05 2011 06:25 PM
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#102
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Posted 04 March 2012 - 05:50 PM
Chris I should have come her to vent with you months ago 
17 has been an adventure
last summer we hit the peak of disrespect - and I FINALLY stood up and told her she couldn't live in my house & treat me that way
she moved out and took about 4 months before she wanted to come home - and understood the other side of her choice was to stay her but change her behavior .. we are in the final month of 17 now and she can't wait to move out ... and honestly I'm all for it too
I love her dearly but have come to understand that this is her story to write - I won't always like it but I will always love her
.. but how they hell did they get this grown
17 has been an adventure
last summer we hit the peak of disrespect - and I FINALLY stood up and told her she couldn't live in my house & treat me that way
she moved out and took about 4 months before she wanted to come home - and understood the other side of her choice was to stay her but change her behavior .. we are in the final month of 17 now and she can't wait to move out ... and honestly I'm all for it too
I love her dearly but have come to understand that this is her story to write - I won't always like it but I will always love her
.. but how they hell did they get this grown
#104
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Posted 05 March 2012 - 02:28 PM
Chris I should have come her to vent with you months ago
17 has been an adventure
last summer we hit the peak of disrespect - and I FINALLY stood up and told her she couldn't live in my house & treat me that way
she moved out and took about 4 months before she wanted to come home - and understood the other side of her choice was to stay her but change her behavior .. we are in the final month of 17 now and she can't wait to move out ... and honestly I'm all for it too
I love her dearly but have come to understand that this is her story to write - I won't always like it but I will always love her
.. but how they hell did they get this grown
I know T... it was just like yesterday when they were 12 (??).
Hey... I just remembered that AWESOME restaurant the four of us hit up.... I loved that place!!
As far as Lynn.... she just got a job at "Not Your Average Joes" restrnt, been working a LOT... with the job she can go on Co-op for School - so today is like her last day of school I think
she is in NO hurry to move out...
gravy train'd.
#105
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Posted 06 March 2012 - 02:30 AM
Sweet way to wrap up Senior year - she gets all the school functions while earning her own loot ..
But you'll still be buying a prom dress I'm sure
P ~ can't wait to be "grown & on her own" .... lol ... I tell her it isn't all its cracked up to be but she isn't buying it ...
But you'll still be buying a prom dress I'm sure
P ~ can't wait to be "grown & on her own" .... lol ... I tell her it isn't all its cracked up to be but she isn't buying it ...
#106
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Posted 06 March 2012 - 04:12 AM
gotta say, I seem to be in the minority. I have never caught attitude or disrespect from my daughter. We've never had a fight or raised our voices to each other. Now, at age 20, she's still my favorite person on the planet.
As far as kids paying for/getting stuff: spoiled is an attitude and not always from getting things. My daughter only pays her car insurance, I bought the car, I am helping with school, she is on my cell plan... but she appreciates it all and works hard earning a 4.0 in college so I don't think I'm doing her a disservice. She is not spoiled. It really depends on the child.
I definitely agree with someone in this thread who said kids are a part of today's culture (nasty tv programming where kids model mean and disrespectful behavior and bully, and expect, and have been super commercialized, and movies that make parents look like idiots unworthy of respect), then they go to school and see the same behaviors from friends and a lot of parents who not only put up with it but cater to it. I'm willing to bet many cultures do not model this behavior to kids and don't tolerate it. I just watched a show on amish families - no tv's, communities gettng together, mom's staying home, family dinners, everyone had chores and spiritual practice, polite children... It was really beautiful.
anyway, glad to read things seem to be better, chris
As far as kids paying for/getting stuff: spoiled is an attitude and not always from getting things. My daughter only pays her car insurance, I bought the car, I am helping with school, she is on my cell plan... but she appreciates it all and works hard earning a 4.0 in college so I don't think I'm doing her a disservice. She is not spoiled. It really depends on the child.
I definitely agree with someone in this thread who said kids are a part of today's culture (nasty tv programming where kids model mean and disrespectful behavior and bully, and expect, and have been super commercialized, and movies that make parents look like idiots unworthy of respect), then they go to school and see the same behaviors from friends and a lot of parents who not only put up with it but cater to it. I'm willing to bet many cultures do not model this behavior to kids and don't tolerate it. I just watched a show on amish families - no tv's, communities gettng together, mom's staying home, family dinners, everyone had chores and spiritual practice, polite children... It was really beautiful.
anyway, glad to read things seem to be better, chris
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Posted 10 April 2012 - 05:18 PM
much... now that she's an "adult" she's really grasped the work ethic, we have pretty much zero issues.
This photo is unrelated although once when Lynn was 5 her and her boy cousin of the same age colored each other wee wees.... that was upsetting.
http://assets0.ordie...al.jpg?59b31aa1
my internet is broked.
This photo is unrelated although once when Lynn was 5 her and her boy cousin of the same age colored each other wee wees.... that was upsetting.
http://assets0.ordie...al.jpg?59b31aa1
my internet is broked.
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Posted 11 April 2012 - 06:11 PM
I agree that school has a lot to do with it. This year, Cate has really shown some yucky behaviors ( eye rolling, talking back etc), but we just had 10 days off from school & my polite, sweet child returned 
I'm soooooooooooo looking forward to homeschooling next year!
I'm soooooooooooo looking forward to homeschooling next year!
#113
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Posted 12 April 2012 - 02:55 AM
ChinaCat- do you have suggestions or advice on how to raise a child like that? I am honestly scared of the teenage years b/c I know what a shit head I was. I have 2 girls and would love to have a great relationship with them both.
Love them, care for them....and maybe you'll get lucky.
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Posted 12 April 2012 - 02:06 PM
It happens. As I said..."luck" as a ton to do with it. You were independent and fiesty and full of life. It's hard to tame the red in you.
Me, I just had parents who were too busy doing their own thing to notice what the hell I was doing.
Me, I just had parents who were too busy doing their own thing to notice what the hell I was doing.
#116
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Posted 12 April 2012 - 07:52 PM
I'd say I was mouthy from 13-16, I partied but nothing too crazy (well, my definition of crazy), I never got into real trouble - although LUCK had a big role in that....ok yeah I'm fucked
I'm really hopin the mellow, cautious, older sister will restrain my mini me.................................what? I can dream can't I?
I'm really hopin the mellow, cautious, older sister will restrain my mini me.................................what?
I can dream can't I?
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Posted 12 April 2012 - 08:19 PM
I'd say I was mouthy from 13-16, I partied but nothing too crazy (well, my definition of crazy), I never got into real trouble - although LUCK had a big role in that....ok yeah I'm fucked
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Posted 16 April 2012 - 06:11 PM
Be afraid. Be VERY afraid.
They all go through it at one time or another.
My first one was not her best self until she became a teenager - around 14-15, she all of a sudden turned real nice and continues to be so.
My second one was wonderful all through her younger and teen years, went to college and then became crabby and distant.
My third on is on a more traditional track, crabbing out at 15 and still not done at 18.
Goes to show you don't ever know.
Just love them and eventually the monsters will release their brains.
They all go through it at one time or another.
My first one was not her best self until she became a teenager - around 14-15, she all of a sudden turned real nice and continues to be so.
My second one was wonderful all through her younger and teen years, went to college and then became crabby and distant.
My third on is on a more traditional track, crabbing out at 15 and still not done at 18.
Goes to show you don't ever know.
Just love them and eventually the monsters will release their brains.
