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[Tim the Beek]

There's never a good reason to be a dickhead, really. But it happens.

[JBetty]

Another thing to consider is that the exact same behavior considered "assertive" in a man is typically considered "bitchy" in a woman.

[SunshineDrummer]

Theres neve a good reason to be a dickhead when you are a manager.

Truth.

As to the topic at hand: The worst boss I ever had was a woman. It wasn't because of her gender, it was because of her own paranoia. She blamed every misfortune she experienced on her gender and played the "this happened because I'm a woman and I'm so oppressed" card constantly, even though she brought most of it down on herself. She was an incredibly smart person and a very good attorney but she had a personality like sandpaper and took every opportunity to put others down in order to make herself look better. I can only imagine what she would have been able to accomplish if she let all that shit go and just let her talent show through, because she had a ton of it.

I've had an equal mix of male & femal bosses over the years. Some good, some bad but I found it was more based on personality and people skills than gender. Also self-confidence. Seems like the more comfortable you are in your own skin, the better you treat those who work for you.

[hoagie]

Theres assertive, and then there is going
out of your way to nitpick something just to win the ensueing arguement. This is my managers MO...find something to critique, and if you question or do anything other than take it, she pulls out the "i am the generalanager, im not lookIng for a conversation on this.". Even if its when i went to use a second pushpin on the corkboard because my list was flapping around, she came at me with "only use ONE pushpin...i have everything how I want it, and Todd ( the special kid who takes out trash ) will lose them."

??? Shes crazy...

[Spidergawd]

There's never a good reason to be a dickhead, really. But it happens.

But... But... But... What if you are, in fact, a penis?

[hoagie]

But... But... But... What if you are, in fact, a penis?

Richard Johnson

[Tim the Beek]

But... But... But... What if you are, in fact, a penis?

[u.s.blues]

in a perfect world i think everybody(well almost everybody) should be a boss/manager for at least a short while. It really puts things in perspective. there are pros and cons to everything and being a manager is one of them. while it can be rewarding, it can also be a complete pain in the ass. there are situations where there is no option that will please everyone...certain unavoidable situations or mistakes that will upset at least somebody. i'm not trying to make excuses for psycho managers by any means, but sometimes the role is harder to assume then people realize...

[MeOmYo]

^this. one of the most difficult things to deal with is people.

[TEO]

Hearty laugh!

[TEO]

^this. one of the most difficult things to deal with is people.

People suck

[tyedyedee]

in a perfect world i think everybody(well almost everybody) should be a boss/manager for at least a short while. It really puts things in perspective. there are pros and cons to everything and being a manager is one of them. while it can be rewarding, it can also be a complete pain in the ass. there are situations where there is no option that will please everyone...certain unavoidable situations or mistakes that will upset at least somebody. i'm not trying to make excuses for psycho managers by any means, but sometimes the role is harder to assume then people realize...

absolutely!

i am a woman manager and at first, my male employees would barely acknowledge me, let alone do what i asked and suggested, but as the weeks went by and they got to know both me and my male manager (we are both managers at my program), it seems that they now COME to me for suggestions and to complain about HIM

gender is immaterial unless the person (either the mgr or the employee) *makes* it

<<<< is an awesome manager!

<<<< is for the 'period' comment

[MeOmYo]

never trust anything that bleeds for a week and doesn't die..........

[TEO]

If that thing is signing your paycheck, show some respect.

[PeaceFrog]

In theory, I want to say that it depends upon the person.

In practice, I can't really say because I have had a LOT more male bosses than female... and those couple females weren't the best bosses in the world, but as I said my sample is very limited. I've had a lot of crappy male bosses too.

Now, from a purely scientific standpoint... women do have a lot more mood swings than men do due to hormonal changes. I think this is both good and bad. On one hand, it's a different perspective... on the other hand if she's miserable then nobody wants to be around her.

my own personal experience just knowing women in general is that a guy is more stable... for example, if it's a miserable guy... he's pretty consistently miserable. Or if he's generally happy, then he's generally happy. Women fluctuate a lot more. Not that guys don't fluctuate... maybe we just don't show it as much.

[unbroken_chain]

There's never a good reason to be a dickhead, really. But it happens.

[JBetty]

Now, from a purely scientific standpoint... women do have a lot more mood swings than men do due to hormonal changes. I think this is both good and bad. On one hand, it's a different perspective... on the other hand if she's miserable then nobody wants to be around her.

my own personal experience just knowing women in general is that a guy is more stable... for example, if it's a miserable guy... he's pretty consistently miserable. Or if he's generally happy, then he's generally happy. Women fluctuate a lot more. Not that guys don't fluctuate... maybe we just don't show it as much.

Where on earth do you come up with these crazy gender stereotypes?

[MeOmYo]

purely scientific

[TEO]

[JBetty]

purely scientific

I've been blinded!

Now hit me with technology!

[PeaceFrog]

https://www.google.c...chrome&ie=UTF-8

I have a mother, a sister, and have had many girlfriends and a couple wives. I know how crazy women can be.

After a woman experiences menopause, their testosterone level raises and they stabilize.

estrogen is the crazy one.

[JBetty]

Yup! Women can be just as crazy as men.

[PeaceFrog]

I just googled "mood swings and men" and oddly enough it does happen to men when they have low testosterone. It's all just chemicals.

[PeaceFrog]

men can be crazy too, but it doesn't vary from moment to moment due to estrogen. Again, there's exceptions to every rule.

[PeaceFrog]

oxytocin is the good one.

[MeOmYo]

purely scientific = google

[PeaceFrog]

when women go on the pill, they normalize...

[PeaceFrog]

well, I know you're not big on science, but there are differences between men and women besides just the parts you see on the outside.

[JBetty]

when women go on the pill, they normalize...

[PeaceFrog]

women have more of a tendency to be nurturing and caring. And it's all because of hormones and body parts.

[PeaceFrog]

you're also more sensitive to stupid shit someone says on the internet.

Next you'll be telling me your dick is just as big as a man.

[JBetty]

Ahhhhh the lulz.
Keep em coming, PF!

[PeaceFrog]

Why are there more men in jail then women?

Maybe it's because they have higher levels of testosterone which makes them more violent and aggressive.

I guess I just made that all up.

[SunshineDrummer]

:straps in:

:grabs popcorn:

[PeaceFrog]

if you're jealous, shoot yourself up with some testosterone... I'm sure some crazy doctor would be more than willing to do that for you.

I hadn't said anything about one gender being better than the other. But, that's probably what you're feeling that I said. I just said they were generally different. There are always exceptions.

[TEO]

you're also more sensitive to stupid shit someone says on the internet.

Next you'll be telling me your dick is just as big as a man.

My balls are.

[JBetty]

Now I'm feeling what you say. Mmmkay.

[PeaceFrog]

big news! males and females behave differently. Film at 11.

[PeaceFrog]

Now I'm feeling what you say. Mmmkay.

thank you.

[JBetty]

And I thought I was going to be bored this afternoon.

[PeaceFrog]

just from my personal experience, I've seen my mom cry so many times I can't count... but my dad like only once.

now you could argue that women have greater emotional intelligence, and you'd probably be right.

men are more like computers, or vulcans (in general - not always and not all men). just follow TASBs logic.

[Tim the Beek]

My balls are.

[PeaceFrog]

I probably shouldn't have used the word "crazy"

that's purely subjective.

[JBetty]

just from my personal experience, I've seen my mom cry so many times I can't count... but my dad like only once.

And what do you scientifically deduce from that?

[musicfan]

Why are womens feet shorter than man's...



So they can get closer to the sink.

[Jwheelz]

[JBetty]

That's enough out of you, Jwheelz.
I have a few more hours to kill here.

[Jwheelz]

[JBetty]

But you can stick around if you have a grossly exaggerated stereotype or sexist joke to add to the conversation.

[PeaceFrog]

And what do you scientifically deduce from that?

a difference in the way they process emotions.