Well god damn posting in this thread remind me how I have to get back to court so they can decree and then enforce that my kids' father has to contribute to their upbringing, no matter how good their mom is of doing it for him.
Ladies what does a man have to be to qualify to enter a relationship with you?
Started by
Royal
, Sep 29 2012 01:42 AM
154 replies to this topic
#102
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- VibeTribe
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Posted 05 October 2012 - 08:22 AM
I get so used to carrying the load sometimes that I forget there's a whole gaggle of people around me to share the load. The hard part is sometimes you have the unfortunate position to have to kick one in the ass! And they fly opposite of you real fast for a while...but simmer back in near the warmth.
#116
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- VibeTribe
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Posted 05 October 2012 - 03:30 PM
Another point to consider is that people change over time. In a long term relationship, the person you entered it with is not necessarily the same person 15 years later. Sure at the core they usually are (a lot of those core characteristics listed) but philosophies change, things of importance change, people grow, people stop growing, kids change everything...etc...there's an ebb & flow to this.
One of the many reasons I am so happy that I didn't et married until i was 40. I figure, if my 48 year old husband is still a fun loving music freak, that is not likely to change anytime soon!
#133
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Posted 20 October 2012 - 11:32 PM
1) Job holder? Yes (or actively looking due to lay off, etc.)
2) homeowner? Don't care.
3) apartment dweller? Don't care.
4) College graduate? Not a must but MUST be intelligent. Smart is hawt!
5) good looking? Yes. However, I rate personality higher. It can make someone better looking quickly or real ugly, real fast.
6) finacially idnependent? Yes. If I wanted to support someone I would have lolchildren.
7) nice to people? Yes but not too nice. Pushovers and doormats are NOT attractive.
8) pet compatible? MUST LOVE DOGS!
9) completely heterosexual? For me, yes.
10) music lover? YES! (the good kind, not the crap Gregoir listens to. lol)
I'll add:
- Must be crazy fun but not batshit crazy.
- Self confidence and pride without being an egomaniac, self righteous.
- Solid character.
- Honesty, trust and respect rank VERY high with me. You lie once that's kind of it (unless I'm asking if my ass looks huge in a pair of jeans, then it's okay. lol)
- Must be a good friend. You can tell a lot about someone by observing how they treat their friends.
- Must be comfortable in their own skin. If you don't like yourself, why the hell should I?
- Jealous types need not apply.
- Must be able to make me laugh... a lot.
- Must have their own interests independent of mine.
- There must be a superior mental connection as well as physical. If one is missing the other will train wreck pretty damn fast.
- Must have the ability to communicate and if a disagreement arises must be able to fight fair.
- I like men that can cook. Foodies are... reow!
- Must be killer in the sack. I have zero time for mediocre sex at this point in my life, I'd rather go without (and have)!
That's it for now, if I think of more I'll add. lol
And Ry, you have lots of awesome qualities... not just the ones you originally listed.
I was going to make an exception for you, but now you'll just have to keep calling out gregoir as Julius humps your leg.
#143
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Posted 27 October 2012 - 05:24 PM
So today I was talking to my girlfriend and she said, "My bar is so much lower than yours- like right now I'm like "Sweet! So you got probation not jail time....here's my number."
Was talking to my friend Donna last night, she's considering regressing to our "old standards". We used to get pretty excited if a prospect had a car with ins and and didn't live in his mom's basement!
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Posted 25 November 2012 - 03:19 PM
One of the many reasons I am so happy that I didn't et married until i was 40. I figure, if my 48 year old husband is still a fun loving music freak, that is not likely to change anytime soon!
That hasn't changed for either of us! Not likely to change ever!
