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#1 Kashmir

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Posted 12 August 2012 - 12:44 AM

......for my husband on his road to recovery

I've decided to edit a lot of the content. I truly and sincerely appreciate everyone's advice, vibes and support. This community and the people it contains are absolutely beautiful.

Thank you :heart:

#2 Tooozday

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Posted 12 August 2012 - 03:58 AM

:heart: Best wishes for safe healing :heart:

#3 deadheadskier

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Posted 12 August 2012 - 04:01 AM

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#4 TEO

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Posted 13 August 2012 - 01:35 PM

All best wishes :heart:

#5 MeOmYo

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Posted 13 August 2012 - 02:00 PM

:heart:

#6 Tim the Beek

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Posted 13 August 2012 - 02:19 PM

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#7 china cat

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Posted 13 August 2012 - 03:14 PM

I'm sorry, K

I really hope he finds healing and treatment.

lots of love. xoxo

#8 CharlieHarper

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Posted 13 August 2012 - 03:15 PM

I got lucky and my insurance paid for 100% of my rehab, once I met the 5,000 max out of pocket. There has to be a rehab out there that your insurance will cover. I am sending some good vibes your way.

#9 Kashmir

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Posted 13 August 2012 - 03:35 PM

We found a lot of rehabs that accept my insurance, its the insurance that keeps saying no. Its such a corrupt system. But I remain hopeful :heart:

#10 Karen

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Posted 13 August 2012 - 03:42 PM

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#11 CharlieHarper

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Posted 13 August 2012 - 05:27 PM

So are you having the rehab check out the insurance for you? I think they usually pre-qualify you in advance of your arrival. Sorry if these are stupid questions...just trying to help. This must have to so with his drug of choice or dependence...I am just guessing.

#12 Kashmir

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Posted 13 August 2012 - 05:58 PM

No stupid questions. Thanks for the feedback.he called a place and is trying to get pre-qualified.

#13 insolent cur

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Posted 13 August 2012 - 06:36 PM

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#14 Royal

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Posted 13 August 2012 - 09:05 PM

:heart: sending recovery vibes to your husband and you.

#15 Kashmir

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Posted 14 August 2012 - 12:19 AM

Thank you kind boardies. I appreciate the support :heart:

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Posted 14 August 2012 - 12:21 AM

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#17 Lemireacle

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Posted 14 August 2012 - 12:31 AM

:heart: sending you and your husband good vibes for a positive outcome!

#18 CharlieHarper

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Posted 14 August 2012 - 02:42 PM

No stupid questions. Thanks for the feedback.he called a place and is trying to get pre-qualified.



awesome. I work for an extended care place - post rehab - for young men. I know we pre-qualify people's insurance for the clinical costs of our program.

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Posted 14 August 2012 - 04:03 PM

i wish you and your husband the best of luck, Kashmir.

as if the illness is not enough to deal with, you have to fight the insurance company tooth and nail the whole way thru.

#20 Kashmir

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Posted 14 August 2012 - 04:14 PM

insurance is ridiculous!! WTF am I paying so much for??? We are not sickly people and therefore don't have to be paid out on much. Then when the insurance is needed, they are so reluctant to pay.

The place he was trying to go to is kinda expensive and insurance will only pay 1/3 of it. So what then?? It seems as if rehab is only accessable for those who are super rich or, on the opposite end of the spectrum, on state insurance. Those who land in the middle are screwed.

To think of all the people who are required, forced to be in rehab and are not receptive to accepting the help, then you have someone who is ready and willing but completely denied. Its so discouraging.

But still, I shall remain hopeful

#21 Kashmir

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Posted 14 August 2012 - 04:21 PM

I appreciate you all so much more than I can express

#22 Kashmir

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Posted 14 August 2012 - 04:31 PM

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#23 In A Silent Way

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Posted 14 August 2012 - 04:40 PM

I'm skeptical about the professional recovery industry. There's a well-established tradition of people attaining long-term sobriety by joining a fellowship and practicing the Twelve Steps with the guidance of a sponsor. It costs a lot less than paying the industry experts for the service, and the insurance company may be willing to pay for standard behavioral health care as a supplement. Just my $.02. I hope he finds the recovery he's looking for.

#24 Kashmir

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Posted 14 August 2012 - 04:53 PM

He goes to fellowship meetings. He prefers AA as opposed to NA because AA has more old-timers and better grasps on sobriety. He struggles with the higher-power and what it is to him. He will get there. I tell him that whatever he identifies as HIS higher power, he must be sure to give thanks and acknowledge it often.

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Posted 14 August 2012 - 05:15 PM

<<I will not make NA jokes in this thread.>>

It sounds like he's building a good foundation. I'm still struggling with the concept of a higher power, but I don't actively fight it any more. My personal and very non-professional opinion is that he might be better served in private therapy along with what he's doing rather than a 28-day inpatient program.

OK, one joke. Did you hear about the NA group that gave out gold coins on anniversary night? They went out and had them bronzed.

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#26 roo

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Posted 14 August 2012 - 05:20 PM

insurance is ridiculous!! WTF am I paying so much for??? We are not sickly people and therefore don't have to be paid out on much. Then when the insurance is needed, they are so reluctant to pay.

The place he was trying to go to is kinda expensive and insurance will only pay 1/3 of it. So what then?? It seems as if rehab is only accessable for those who are super rich or, on the opposite end of the spectrum, on state insurance. Those who land in the middle are screwed.

To think of all the people who are required, forced to be in rehab and are not receptive to accepting the help, then you have someone who is ready and willing but completely denied. Its so discouraging.

But still, I shall remain hopeful


this is one of my many problems with rehabs and insurance companies. It is the very point that proves "Recovery" is a BUSINESS to these people.
but in your own words "someone who is ready and willing" shouldnt need a rehab. there is a FREE place to go with MANY poeple there who are also more than willing to help for FREE!!

#27 Kashmir

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Posted 14 August 2012 - 05:34 PM

Hahaha. I've attended meeting with him and the overall vibes between the two are very different. :huh:

#28 Kashmir

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Posted 14 August 2012 - 05:38 PM

this is one of my many problems with rehabs and insurance companies. It is the very point that proves "Recovery" is a BUSINESS to these people.
but in your own words "someone who is ready and willing" shouldnt need a rehab. there is a FREE place to go with MANY poeple there who are also more than willing to help for FREE!!


Everything you've said is all very true, roo. I think he is just looking for something that is more intensive. And seeing as this is really the first time he has felt so ready and been so committed, I am all for it. It speaks volumes that he is so determined to seek intense help rather that deny the truth, run away and talk his way out.

#29 In A Silent Way

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Posted 14 August 2012 - 05:39 PM

A Hindu, a Muslim, and a guy in NA were traveling together when their car broke down on a country road at night. They walked until they came to a farm. The farmer said he had a shed that could sleep two, and there was room in the barn for a third. The Hindu volunteered to sleep in the barn.

After a few minutes, there was a knock at the door. It was the Hindu, saying "There are cows in the barn. Because they are sacred to us, I cannot sleep with them." The Muslim volunteered to sleep in the barn.

After a few minutes, there was a knock at the door. It was the Muslim, saying, "There are pigs in the barn. Because they are unclean to us, I cannot sleep with them."

The guy from NA said, "No problem. I partied like a fuckin' animal, and I can sleep with fuckin' animals. I'll go."

After a few minutes, there was a knock at the door. It was the cows and pigs.

#30 Kashmir

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Posted 14 August 2012 - 05:44 PM

You couldn't resist, could you :spank:

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#31 Kashmir

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Posted 16 August 2012 - 02:48 PM

All the good vibes and well wishes worked!!! :kashmir:

Thank you kynd souls :heart:

#32 In A Silent Way

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Posted 16 August 2012 - 02:58 PM

Nice! I hope he finds the long-term sobriety he's looking for.

#33 Kashmir

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Posted 16 August 2012 - 03:05 PM

Me too!!
I think he can do it.

I have faith :heart:

#34 TEO

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Posted 16 August 2012 - 04:47 PM

Strength, Courage, Fortitude & Faith :heart:

#35 CharlieHarper

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Posted 16 August 2012 - 05:03 PM

Right on! :jump:

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Posted 20 August 2012 - 01:58 PM

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#37 Kashmir

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Posted 07 September 2012 - 10:19 PM

Well, almost a month after my original post, some actual headway has been made.
Finally

I know there are many good vibes needed, if you have it in you...... :heart:

#38 Karen

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Posted 08 September 2012 - 03:08 AM

Sending as much as I can muster!

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#39 KrisNYG

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Posted 08 September 2012 - 03:42 PM

:heart: :heart: :heart:

#40 TEO

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Posted 10 September 2012 - 12:52 PM

Love, Light, Strength :heart:

#41 Jersey Thug

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Posted 13 September 2012 - 01:15 PM

sending you both so much love, healing vibes and huge hugs :heart:

#42 Terry Bo Berry

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Posted 20 September 2012 - 03:56 PM

Thinking about you two today. I hope all is well.

#43 tyedyedee

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Posted 20 September 2012 - 11:38 PM

whatever i have, jen, its yours :heart:

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Posted 21 September 2012 - 12:29 PM

<3

Doesn't matter to me so much what God is or isn't, so long as the playbill for today doesn't have an insert which says, "in this performance, the role of God will be played be Tim the Beek." :)

#45 vinandtonic

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Posted 21 September 2012 - 02:30 PM

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#46 Kashmir

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Posted 22 September 2012 - 04:43 PM

Thanks folks. Our vibes are helping so far :heart:

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Posted 23 September 2012 - 01:11 AM

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