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#1 tiedyesky

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Posted 26 July 2012 - 12:15 AM

Losing any child is devastating.....
My son just lost a second child ... Michael Francis was born at 7:15 am and died at 9:42 am today. Sadly, he is not coping well at all, and understandably so....
If you have anything to spare, i would appreciate any love, prayer, vibes, positive thoughts you can spare for Arthur, Erica and little Mikey <3

Thank you all <3

#2 Karen

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Posted 26 July 2012 - 12:19 AM

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Much love, prayer and soothing vibes to you and your family...

RIP Michael Francis


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#3 Eco

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Posted 26 July 2012 - 12:28 AM

Ah fuc, I can't imagine celebrating a birth and then a death hours apart=sucks! May Jah guide you and your family now, until you recover and until you pass and then after.

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Posted 26 July 2012 - 01:12 AM

Love, Light, Strength, Comfort & Inner Peace :heart:

#5 In A Silent Way

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Posted 26 July 2012 - 01:40 AM

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#6 tiedyesky

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Posted 26 July 2012 - 03:19 AM

thank you all <3

#7 seany

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Posted 26 July 2012 - 03:24 AM

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#8 manzanita stark

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Posted 26 July 2012 - 03:25 AM

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#9 deadheadskier

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Posted 26 July 2012 - 12:54 PM

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#10 MeOmYo

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Posted 26 July 2012 - 01:13 PM

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#11 JBetty

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Posted 26 July 2012 - 01:30 PM

I can't even imagine a bigger heartache than losing a child. :heart:
Much love to you and your family.

#12 hippiechickme

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Posted 27 July 2012 - 11:37 AM

I cannot even imagine that heartbreak. May your souls heal quickly.

#13 Depends

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Posted 27 July 2012 - 12:00 PM

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#14 Lazy Lightning

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Posted 27 July 2012 - 12:12 PM

You know that Tyler and I are shining our light on you and your family, Conni. :heart:

#15 tiedyesky

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Posted 27 July 2012 - 07:52 PM

You guys are all awesome. I got a text from my son this afternoon...telling me how our grandson looked just like him, especially his nose
I got all teary and remembered his rage and fury from yesterday...I texted back :(
He said "No. :)"
So for this, i thank you all from the bottom of my heart for filling up his bucket. The hardest part of losing family you haven't gotten a chance to know, is feeling the pain that your family endures...
Thanks for helping to ease ours...it means everything to us <3 <3 <3

#16 JBetty

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Posted 27 July 2012 - 08:05 PM

I got all teary just reading this. :heart:

#17 vinandtonic

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Posted 28 July 2012 - 03:40 PM

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#18 mountain mama

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Posted 29 July 2012 - 01:53 PM

so very sorry for your familys pain. much love to you and yours <3 <3 <3

#19 tiedyesky

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Posted 04 August 2012 - 01:24 AM

Thank you everybody. My son is bringing home his ashes from Massachusetts tomorrow :cry1:

#20 Royal

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Posted 05 August 2012 - 02:47 AM

I'm so sorry. I just saw this now. May God's love be with your son, his partner and all who in his family. I wish there was more I could do to heal.

#21 tiedyesky

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Posted 05 August 2012 - 03:28 AM

Thank you Ryan. Its been a long sad week...here's to hoping the healing process is kind to all <3

#22 Karen

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Posted 05 August 2012 - 03:52 AM

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#23 tiedyesky

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Posted 05 August 2012 - 01:35 PM

Grandma's sister passed away yesterday :cry1: Too much alternating joy and sadness this past 2 weeks...I seriously wonder if this is how bi-polar people feel.... its pretty shitty. I can't begin to imagine having to deal with these emotions year round, day after day....
*SIGH*

#24 Eco

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Posted 05 August 2012 - 02:52 PM

Looks like you got dealt some crappy hands this week. Keep your chin up, better days are ahead.

#25 sums

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Posted 05 August 2012 - 04:56 PM

There you go
Swimming deeper into mystery
Here I remain
Only seeing where you used to be
Stared at the ceiling
'Til my ears filled up with tears
Never got to know you
Suddenly you're out of here

Gone from mystery into mystery
Gone from daylight into night
Another step deeper into darkness
Closer to the light

Walked outside
Summer moon was nearly down
Mist on the fields
Holy stillness all around
Death's no stranger
No stranger than the life I've seen
Still I cry
Still I begged to get you back again

Gone from mystery into mystery
Gone from daylight into night
Another step deeper into darkness
Closer to the light

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#26 tiedyesky

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Posted 06 August 2012 - 01:42 PM

My granddaughter Kayla Marie would have been 2 today. I think I'm going to have birthday cake for dinner anyway and see if some chocalate will ease summa the sadness away~



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Posted 06 August 2012 - 03:59 PM

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#28 Tim the Beek

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Posted 06 August 2012 - 08:19 PM

I just noticed this, Conni.

I hope you're family is holding up, and all are in my prayers...

#29 tiedyesky

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Posted 06 August 2012 - 10:12 PM

Thank you Tim. I think the preparations for the funeral are distracting us a little....in a good way I guess. It'll all sink in next week I think...

#30 TEO

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Posted 07 August 2012 - 01:54 AM

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#31 tiedyesky

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Posted 08 August 2012 - 11:44 AM

Funeral today....Nick's BD tomorrow...just one more turn on this roller coaster....

*DEEP BREATH*.....




#32 scarfire

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Posted 08 August 2012 - 01:59 PM

so sorry tyedyesky :heart:

#33 tiedyesky

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Posted 09 August 2012 - 03:15 PM

Thank you everyboardie. Funeral was tough yesterday...Grandma is sooooooo heartbroken :( Plus, Aunt Pauline's plot is right next to Grandma's husband's grave...which also creeps me out, because that's my husband's name on that marker. 25 years later I can't shake the uneasy feeling seeing it gives me.

*DEEP BREATH*

And switch gears again. Today is my kid's birthday. Grandson turned 10 today and I'm supposed to be back on the upswing of this emotional wave today.....so here goes something else.

*Nodding to myself "YES! I can DO this!!" *

#34 JBetty

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Posted 09 August 2012 - 03:51 PM

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Are you working this afternoon?

#35 tiedyesky

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Posted 09 August 2012 - 05:11 PM

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Are you working this afternoon?


Yes, 3-9...will you come harass me :devil:

#36 JBetty

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Posted 09 August 2012 - 05:39 PM

Are you wearing pants today?

#37 tiedyesky

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Posted 09 August 2012 - 06:14 PM

Are you wearing pants today?


no. and not again until they wrap them around my cold, hairy, ashy legs :joker:

#38 fire_rocket

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Posted 10 August 2012 - 05:44 PM

Much love to you and your family. :heart:

#39 tiedyesky

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Posted 10 August 2012 - 07:45 PM

Much love to you and your family. :heart:


Thank you <3

#40 tiedyesky

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Posted 13 August 2012 - 07:48 PM

Don't know when this crappy month will end....but after 17 years of sharing smiles, making us watch where we step, being the pillow, the footrest and sometimes the terrier cloth towel we rely on to absorb late night tears, our last girl is finally going home on Wednesday to be with her sister (Pout the white bully) and brother (Rommel, Momma's big guy)

Its really tough letting go....


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#41 In A Silent Way

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Posted 13 August 2012 - 07:50 PM

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#42 TEO

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Posted 13 August 2012 - 09:36 PM

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#43 tiedyesky

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Posted 15 August 2012 - 01:50 PM

Yeah. So today is teh BIG suck. We are in the "golden hour" as it were....her doctor appt is at 11 am.
I can't think straight at the moment....between the feelings, the tears, and the leftover/residual wine effects from last night. So, here is what I posted on Flickr for my personal friends to read, after we made "the appt" on my birthday


"Finally All Together Again~


How my heart is breaking. This is the toughest goodbye yet....because it is planned and its hard to say if its the "right" thing to do.
But we promised to never let them suffer, and we as humans can only understand so much from our babies that cannot talk.
But last night, we made the decision that Wednesday will be Sparky's last earthly day. No more heat exhaustion. No more pooping in her bed. No more falling up or down the stairs, or sliding when we eat. Being blind and deaf, no more fear or uncertainty, no more bumping into furniture or walls while children giggle :(
No more kisses, furry football, handle wagging.
Just one last hug goodbye and newly broken hearts for a bit, but most importantly, no more suffering~
After we made that decision, she fell asleep in her usual spot...and for the second time for me, and the first time for Peter since the other babes passed, she had a dream and together we heard her bark for the first time in years.
I hope that was her way of letting us know she's happy with our reasoning..."





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#44 elder

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Posted 15 August 2012 - 02:05 PM

Its not very often that I am out of words, but I am.
My heart breaks for you and your family Conni.
I just wish you quick time passage and healing.

I love you :heart:

#45 tiedyesky

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Posted 15 August 2012 - 07:54 PM

Thank you Tom. We love you too <3

#46 tiedyesky

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Posted 22 August 2012 - 06:31 PM

Well, we just gained a "daughter"....my son and my late grandson Michael's mommy are officially engaged, bling and all
Let the healing process begin!! <3

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Posted 27 August 2012 - 02:22 AM

oh my, so many losses and so much pain in such a short time. :heart:

may the gaining of a daughter be the beginning of more joyful times for you and your family. :heart:

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Posted 27 August 2012 - 07:19 AM

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#49 tiedyesky

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Posted 30 August 2012 - 03:55 AM

Thanks cj and sarah b. I brought Sparky's ashes home today. I thought I'd steeled myself, but it was still a floodgate when I got her "back in my arms" Must have looked like an idiot balling in a parking lot :undecided:

But now that she's "back home" and on the hearth with our other 2, Rommel and Pout, I feel better. A lot more at ease, and a little better about the fact that she's in a better place even though we still miss her, them, something fierce <3

#50 Karen

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Posted 30 August 2012 - 11:45 AM

You certainly did not look like an idiot sweetie. I think most of us react that way when we get our beloved pet's ashes....I know both JP and I did :heart: