anyone been to a life coach?

[MistyMountain]

greetings beautiful vibetribe ladies... :heart:

lately i've been thinking a lot about where my life is going, what i want to manifest, and how i can overcome blocks and limiting beliefs so that i can get my shit together once and for all. despite all the spiritual/self-help work i've done over the past few years (and believe me i've done my share!) i still feel stuck. my mind keeps living the same "stories" over and over again and the same self-sabotaging habits keep re-appearing on a daily basis. i feel overwhelmed by all that i want to do-- i don't know where to start, so therefore i just end up not doing anything at all. i need help. and i don't know where to turn. i read this great article on life coaches recently and it was thinking about contacting one in my area, but i'm skeptical. what do you all think? have any of you been to a life coach before? any thoughts are greatly appreciated...:heart:

[Spiffy]

I know exactly where you're coming from. I know personally, being able to open up and talk honestly about my fears was helpful. You can admit things to yourself and still have them stay the same...but when you say them out loud they become tangible and very real. This is still something I struggle with on an every day basis as well.
I have not been to a life coach, but its something I'd consider. You have to make yourself happy, no one else is going to do it for you. A little help along the way never hurt anyone though ;)

[Luna]

I've thought a lot abt going to one as well. I know exactly what you're saying abt wanting to do so much so I end up doing nothing b/c its overwhelming. If anyone as any good experiences with it Im interested in hearing

[HoopsTer]

I have.
I went to a life coach and reiki healer when I was living in Boston. She helped me out of my rut and helped me focus my intent on a path that made me happy. The changes in my life didnt happen over night, it has been a 3 year marathon rather than a short sprint...but she started the wheels turning. Ironically, a lot of the coaching that she did with/for me goes hand in hand with the counselor I am learning to become at IIN. Marueen told me years ago that I was destined to be a healer, teacher and counselor (and not a legal counselor) in some way or manner and she told me this before I started my yoga program and before I even knew what IIN was.

Now it's 4 years later, I AM a Reiki Master, I AM a yoga teacher, I AM a counselor and by the end of the year I will be quitting my law counselor gig and doing what makes my heart happy full time.

I think that life coaches are great. But I also think that it's really important to do a lot of research on why you want one and who you are choosing. I feel like there are a lot of shams out there.

[MistyMountain]

yeah I was wondering if I just need to talk to an IIN counselor instead...

[HoopsTer]

yeah I was wondering if I just need to talk to an IIN counselor instead...

It would probably be a good idea. Chat up with Britt or Tara about it.

I think a lot of people think Holistic Health Counseling is just about eating healthy, which isnt the case, actually it's secondary. Holistic (Health) Counseling looks at all areas of your life...and things like relationships and spirituality play a really big part in that.

[Luna]

I have.
I went to a life coach and reiki healer when I was living in Boston. She helped me out of my rut and helped me focus my intent on a path that made me happy. The changes in my life didnt happen over night, it has been a 3 year marathon rather than a short sprint...but she started the wheels turning. Ironically, a lot of the coaching that she did with/for me goes hand in hand with the counselor I am learning to become at IIN. Marueen told me years ago that I was destined to be a healer, teacher and counselor (and not a legal counselor) in some way or manner and she told me this before I started my yoga program and before I even knew what IIN was.

Now it's 4 years later, I AM a Reiki Master, I AM a yoga teacher, I AM a counselor and by the end of the year I will be quitting my law counselor gig and doing what makes my heart happy full time.

I think that life coaches are great. But I also think that it's really important to do a lot of research on why you want one and who you are choosing. I feel like there are a lot of shams out there.

:dance: thats so great!!

Im saving up lil miss thang so you can be my Holistic counselor :jamguy:

[Mr. McGrit]

I trade Health Counseling Sessions for Life Coaching Sessions with a lady here in Burlington. What we do is so similiar and we both have helped each other so much. She has guided me and I love her! I have helped her a lot too. Everyone always says to me..'I came to you for food issues and we did so much more." It's really cool the difference a little coaching can do in someone's life. I'd love to talk to ya!

[Mr. McGrit]

sorry...this is taraleigh not dan hahahaha

[sums]

I think that life coaches are great. But I also think that it's really important to do a lot of research on why you want one and who you are choosing. I feel like there are a lot of shams out there.

this is great advice :thup:

the woman who fired me is a "life coach". she is one of the most fucked up people i've ever met. my mom is a psychologist (retired). another one of the most incredibly damaged and fucked up people i've ever met in my life. i have a serious resistance to anyone helping me out that isn't my husband or my kids ;)

i'd rather come here, to my peers, for advice and support than pay someone who might have some strange agenda.

sorry to be so negative but i'm just relating my personal experience
;) :heart:

[sums]

and for those of you who have found a good person that is really helping, may you continue to bloom and grow :) :heart:

[HoopsTer]

and for those of you who have found a good person that is really helping, may you continue to bloom and grow :) :heart:

:heart:

Now I have marry poppins in my head!

[sums]

(sound of music ;) )

blossom of snow may you bloom and grow
bloom and grow forever!

:lol: i knew i pulled it up from somewhere!

[sums]

but yeah, julie andrews is julie andrews! :)

[MistyMountain]

this is great advice :thup:

the woman who fired me is a "life coach". she is one of the most fucked up people i've ever met. my mom is a psychologist (retired). another one of the most incredibly damaged and fucked up people i've ever met in my life. i have a serious resistance to anyone helping me out that isn't my husband or my kids ;)

i'd rather come here, to my peers, for advice and support than pay someone who might have some strange agenda.

sorry to be so negative but i'm just relating my personal experience
;) :heart:

i hear ya summer, my step-mom was our family shrink when my mom and dad were in the process of getting divorced. yep that's right, we all went to her for therapy and then she jumped right on my dad as soon as he and my mom signed the papers. and let me tell, this woman is one of the most disturbing, manipulative, and just downright fucked up people i have ever met. i feel sorry for her, actually. hence why i am so cautious about seeking "professional" help.

[sums]

(((misty)))

my mom tried to make a pass at my husband! :eek:

(i haven't spoken to her since...)

i know there are good people out there who want to help. there have to be! i hope you find the help you seek and that you find inspiration and freedom in your life :heart: :)

[Mr. McGrit]

No wonder some people are so hesitant to work with a coach. Woah! I'm so sorry those things happen.

[Mr. McGrit]

this is taraleigh not dan....

[HoopsTer]

but yeah, julie andrews is julie andrews! :)

LOL
yup. oops! :funny1:


and yeah, those are some terrible experiences. :sad:

[lost-in-boston]

(sound of music ;) )

blossom of snow may you bloom and grow
bloom and grow forever!

:lol: i knew i pulled it up from somewhere!


shit I can't spell the name of the damned flower that the song is about.
Grows on a mountain :lol:
Close though Terra, was Julie Andrews in both :wink:

[lost-in-boston]

and more on topic, I like the idea of this...
a good life counselor.
I'm going in June to do my Reiki I :)
the more I've thought about it the more I'm EXCITED about it!
My path in my heart is to do oncology nursing, but I'm really loving the idea of incorporating much much more into that for healing process of so many people who suffer so much.

I'm much farther away from what I want than I'd like to be, I more need a finacial advisor at this point :eyeroll: to get me on track, saving so I can PAY for nursing school and dedicate my life to helping fight what took my mother's life.

[hippiechickme]

and more on topic, I like the idea of this...
a good life counselor.
I'm going in June to do my Reiki I :)
the more I've thought about it the more I'm EXCITED about it!
My path in my heart is to do oncology nursing, but I'm really loving the idea of incorporating much much more into that for healing process of so many people who suffer so much.

I'm much farther away from what I want than I'd like to be, I more need a finacial advisor at this point :eyeroll: to get me on track, saving so I can PAY for nursing school and dedicate my life to helping fight what took my mother's life.


edelweiss is the national flower of switzerland :wink:

[Spiffy]

I'm much farther away from what I want than I'd like to be, I more need a finacial advisor at this point :rolleyes: to get me on track, saving so I can PAY for nursing school and dedicate my life to helping fight what took my mother's life.

you bitch, you just made me tear up. :funny1:
talk to Karen, she just finished nursing school, and she's responsible enough to help you budget. reiki combined with oncology nursing is perfect for you. seriously...you me and ter can all get together and practice it on each other...two on one, double team action. :clapping: yah, i said that on purpose.

[Elphaba]

imho, if you want a "life coach" looking to a mentor, friend - someone you admire, perhaps an older, more mature woman who has the qualities and/or successes you admire - someone you can trust and who knows you. maybe you don't know this person yet. look around and take note of your "mothers". i have relied on several mentors over the years. i think looking for answers from a stranger or paying someone to tell you or give you answers about what you should do with your life is questionable and the life coaches themselves are on the exploitive side.

[lost-in-boston]

edelweiss is the national flower of switzerland :wink:

oh yeah, I so woulda botched that in a BIG way. :blush:

and yes...that was my favorite song from that musical :heart:
big turning point for that family too...

anyways...
Spiff you're right, maybe I will talk to Karen (lathers yes??) see how she did things. She's so responsible and I'm so "spur of the moment" for my spending. :rolleyes: grrr i hate that about me. :undecided:

[HoopsTer]

Payment plans work best!

You and I have very like spending habits. :undecided: And they're not good!!!

the only way I could have done my yoga training or IIN was through a payment plan. I knew/know that on x day of each month $$ was coming out of my account. It's just another payment, and I am not acquiring new debt. I go out less and shop less in order to pay it. *shrugs* It sucks not being able to spend that money at will, but I know it's for the long haul and the good cause. It's for my future and happiness! :)

[HoopsTer]

imho, if you want a "life coach" looking to a mentor, friend - someone you admire, perhaps an older, more mature woman who has the qualities and/or successes you admire - someone you can trust and who knows you. maybe you don't know this person yet. look around and take note of your "mothers". i have relied on several mentors over the years. i think looking for answers from a stranger or paying someone to tell you or give you answers about what you should do with your life is questionable and the life coaches themselves are on the exploitive side.


I agree with this concept as well, but it's not always that easy. I did seek out my life coach and I did pay her, I did a lot of research before I chose her. She was someone who had a career path that I was interested in and someone I thought I could look to as a mentor.

At the core, people always know what they should and shouldn't do. You should eat less junk food, you should eat more veggies, you should seek out a career that is complimentary not contrary to your ethic and belief system. These are all very simplistic ideas that each one of us knows and understands. Unfortunately, executing isn't always that easy. Some of us need a need our own personal cheerleader. Yes, it would be wonderful to be able to find someone in our lives that could and would do it and be there for us for free....but that isn't always the case.

I have lots of amazing women and inspirations in my life. I love each of them dearly, but I do have a hard time opening up to people and I know I don't let them see or know about my own insecurities. It was easier to open up to my life coach. It may sound trivial, but I felt more secure becuase there was the perception of less/no judgment and I didn't have to worry whether or not she was still going to be my friend. *shrugs* I'm not sure that makes much sense.

But it worked for me and I dont know if I would be where I am right now if it weren't for her encouragement.

[MistyMountain]

makes perfect sense to me, terra. thanks for your insight. i have many mentors here at the wilderness school, but they specialize in helping me evolve as a naturalist and youth mentor. they aren't here to help me with my personal life, my deeper self. but i definitely feel like i need a personal cheerleader sometimes. someone who can look at things objectively and help me organize myself and move passed certain beliefs that are holding me back.

[sarah b.]

I agree with noting/seeking mentors (I have never hired a life coach). Perhaps you have a skills set of value to one of the potential mentor-type people in your life, too. I mean both male and female, too.

From your first post, I think cultivating awareness of the repeat scripts and patterns you find are obstacles is a good first step. Have you journaled about them, at all? That may help. Not necessarily just words; drawings/collages can be helpful, too.

I find that whom I wish to ask for advice often leads me to the answer I'm seeking without even needing to ask. It's sort of like tuning into your mood changes around your menstrual cycle. You tune in better, and that helps you navigate better, whether the answer is to cope or to overcome. I hope that makes sense, on some level. Best wishes toward reaching your goals. :heart: