My Ex never f***king stops

[Spiderweb]

He flat out refuses to speak to me & will only text. This is a 50 yo man I'm talking about. He is now arguing w/ me over having to bring our daughter to a girl scout function & owing $$ for girls scout cookies he helped her sell. He never ceases to amaze me & should actually cease to exist. He's suck a wonderful f**king father & role model to her. Oh...I forgot to mention, he's doing all of this while she is with him. F**king tool.:rolleyes:

[sums]

i'm so sorry. i have so been there.

if it's any consolation, my ex was the hugest asshole in the history of the world and now we are good friends. but our son is turning 29 this year... it took him a long time. and that is the understatement of the century!

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[Spiderweb]

Thanks Sums. He just makes it so extremely difficult. Everytime I try to talk to him he ignores me or when I call, he hangs up. He always pulls this in front of my girl & that bothers me the most. I can't imagine us ever being friends.

[vinandtonic]

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[KindGeeGirl]

I feel your pain :heart: Hang in there :heart:

I don't see me and my ex ever being friends again either. I would be happy with him not being an asshole though. Hey be a miserable asshole on your own time but when my kids and I are involved try to at least not be so obvious about it.

[sums]

i never, in a million years, thought i would be friends with my ex. he was so incredibly mean and emotionally abusive. he would say the most awful things about me in front of our son when i was there, i can't even imagine what he said when i wasn't around. but things happen, people change. sometimes they are even forced, by a different relationship and set of circumstances to go to anger management counseling. sometimes they suck at it so bad, they have to do it all over again ;)

sometimes someone can even have a really amazing realization later in their lives.

i wish this for all women dealing with abusive relationships with their exes that they have kids with; that a small miracle will happen and that you might remember, even in a tiny way, why you once loved this person in the 1st place :heart:

[sarah b.]

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[Karen]

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That's just awful. I wonder what people think they stand to gain by being so difficult? Ugh.

My ex dragged me to court in January - I gave him $ to just GO AWAY.
He blows my mind. I was so good to him, kept him alive during his years of addiction, gave him credibility when he had none, spoke well of him when nobody else would anymore....and he thanked me by dragging me to court 4.5 years later. He is a GIANT a-hole in my book now. The hardest part was trying to understand why he could not seem to remember that I was his most loving and loyal advocate for many, many years when he sucker-punched me and dragged me to court.

(((people dealing with nasty ex's)))

[KindGeeGirl]

My latest complaint is that he took my son's cel phone away as a punishment. He is 11 and the only people he talks to on it is me and his Dad. I can never get in touch with him at his Dad's house so the cel has turned into my primary source of contact when he is gone. So the only person he punished was me :rolleyes:

OH and the punishment is because he is failing Spanish on his progress report. This is a first year with a language and my son is having a hard time with it. He got his grades up from the last report card but apparently he said he turned work in but his teacher said no. So he will make up the work. Test are all 80s and 90s. He has been on the honor roll all year. I remember after his first report card his father flipped out that it was bad. I thought it was good and told him that we were just going to be disagreeing on this subject. UNTIL I got the honor roll letter in mail. Then I told him to shut up his kid is on the honor roll.

)))))))BABY DADDY(((((((

[KindGeeGirl]

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That's just awful. I wonder what people think they stand to gain by being so difficult? Ugh.

My ex dragged me to court in January - I gave him $ to just GO AWAY.
He blows my mind. I was so good to him, kept him alive during his years of addiction, gave him credibility when he had none, spoke well of him when nobody else would anymore....and he thanked me by dragging me to court 4.5 years later. He is a GIANT a-hole in my book now. The hardest part was trying to understand why he could not seem to remember that I was his most loving and loyal advocate for many, many years when he sucker-punched me and dragged me to court.

(((people dealing with nasty ex's)))

I don't know how any person does shit like this and then still considers themselves MEN :undecided:

[Karen]

I don't know how any person does shit like this and then still considers themselves MEN :undecided:

Indeed! Sigh. My brother-in-law said to me...'just goes to show you, no good deed goes unpunished".

Sorry to hear about the cell phone - YEESH!

[Spiffy]

my mom gave me a good piece of advice when I was in high school. Men never grow up. They are all little boys. So look carefully at their relationships with their parents, and their parents relationships with each other. If they don't believe they are worthy of accepting love, then they will punish you for loving them.
:heartbounce::heartbounce::heartbounce: I wish you all healing hearts and minds. May the future men in your lives be worthy of you.

[Luna]

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