there'll always be someone

[reveur]

who is unhappy. sigh.

[Erinisme]

yes, and long as it's not you or your hubby you're fine :heart:

[reveur]

yep. just tougher when it's Ma. :lol:

she's so worried about pleasing everyone else she seems to forget its our wedding.

[seany]

You definitely can't please everyone. If it were me, I'd stick all the people who have issues with each other at the same table. In another room. With a big note on the table that says: It's my wedding - so get over your petty differences for a few hours :lol:

[vinandtonic]

it's YOUR wedding. she already had one. ;)

[bsktcase]

My grandmother has been going around telling all of the extended family about my upcoming wedding and when it is and what time and how I finished putting the invitations together.....well, not everyone is invited. It'll be interesting for her to have to tell them all they're not invited because I sure as hell won't be the one doing it.:lol:

[georgi]

Tell them to pay up or shut up if they don't like what you are doing.

[Karen]

sigh...family.

We really wanted to elope and we are getting pressured by the family the have an 'event'. Sigh. Why o why?

[reveur]

and she wonders why my sister eloped :lol:

(((control freaks)))

[Karen]

and she wonders why my sister eloped :lol:

(((control freaks)))

:funny1:

[reveur]

AGAIN!!! maybe my sister can talk some sense into her...I don't tell her anything about our plans since she hates all our ideas!

of course the wedding is all about us! why should I spend $$ on family members I see maybe once a year? we're in a recession for god's sake!!!

:bang:

[Wende]

We're spending a lot of money on family members that we have never met. Just to be *politically correct* But it's what we are doing for the ones we love, because they had asked. Although a wedding, ultimately, is about the bride and the groom...really, is about love and family and understanding. Otherwise, just elope.

Be sure to listen to reason and try and make decisions after everything is thought through hard and thoroughly. Did I spell that right?

[reveur]

believe me, I've asked what she would prefer. I've also enlisted my sister to help run interference for me (and she said this also confirms that she's glad she eloped) :lol:

such a shame, though, that the only person not being supportive is mommy dearest...

[Wende]

My mom isn't a part of my wedding at all, she is just a guest. Actually, everyone is just a guest.(family wise) But still....I guess it's different for me cuz it's my second time around.

It'll all work out for you. I wish you happy planning. It's so much fun.

[CaliBella]

We got sick of planning our wedding and the bills adding up. We eloped, got married in a cheesy chapel in Reno (in jeans!-I had the JCrew italian silk wedding gown, we had the minister paid for, the city permits to have the beach reserved everything taken care of and then changed our minds) and spent the money we would have spent on the rest of the wedding shopping during our honeymoon. It was fun and stress free.
I hope all works out and congrats! Marraige is the most awesome thing in the world!
Moms are well, difficult, a lot more difficult than marraige!

[georgi]

Those JCrew wedding dresses are beautiful! I'd love to do that myself!!! :)

My parent's already told us to go elope. His parent's wouldn't like that too much. :lol:

[reveur]

we both wore jcrew dresses for the wedding :funny1:

I had planned on wearing hers but we're shaped slightly differently so I'm not so sure how that would work...

[moonstone]

Those JCrew wedding dresses are beautiful! I'd love to do that myself!!! :)

My parent's already told us to go elope. His parent's wouldn't like that too much. :lol:

my dad said if my bf and i eloped he would hand over the cash so we could use on a down payment for a house. it would be cheaper for him he reckons. but i think i want a party. not necessarily about me and my man, but about our family and friends uniting together as well.

[georgi]

I like the idea of having just my immediate family there. My Mom, my Dad, my brother and his wife and their 3 kids, Rich's Mom, Rich's Dad, Rich's sister & husband and 2 kids, Rich's brother and his gf. Bada bing. Have that on the beach, go out to dinner, and then a few months later, have a party with family and friends in the summer in our new house with big backyard. :)

[HoopsTer]

my dad said if my bf and i eloped he would hand over the cash so we could use on a down payment for a house. it would be cheaper for him he reckons. but i think i want a party. not necessarily about me and my man, but about our family and friends uniting together as well.


that's what's really important to me too. It's not just about Stephen and I, it's about our families and friends too. I would like them all to have the opportunity to get to know one another (even if they wont see one another often). That's why when we do get married, it will be a weekend destination type event :)

[fire_rocket]

my dad said if my bf and i eloped he would hand over the cash so we could use on a down payment for a house. it would be cheaper for him he reckons. but i think i want a party. not necessarily about me and my man, but about our family and friends uniting together as well.

That's what we decided too. I never wanted a wedding and never thought I would actually have one; I just wanted to throw a big party with all my friends and family. We kept it still somewhat small and very personal to us and it was one of the best days of my life. :heart: I'm so glad we decided to have an actual wedding and didn't just elope.

[Wende]

Me too. We had the reservations made for Vegas and everything. And after attending one of our friends weddings last summer, I said, "there is no way I want to run to Vegas by ourselves" I'll let you all know if it's the best day of my life or not. Or, better yet, be there. :)