Standing my ground..

[wabbit]

We had weaned Gabe to only using his pacifier at nap/bedtime. Lately, he has been throwing it back at us and just this week, I noticed that he was biting through them. So, we decided that tonight's the night, that's it..

Gabe has been screaming for 45 minutes in his crib. I have gone up and rubbed his back, sang to him, let him play with his twilight turtle (until he started standing on it and I was worried he'd fall and crack his head open on the crib bars)..

I refuse to cave. if he gets a piece in his throat, he will choke..

wait, he is quieting down.. I feel so badly, but this is for his own good..

:undecided:

[wabbit]

nope, I was wrong, he must have been allowing more spit to form in this mouth for his next go around..

[irie]

he'll learn that his approach isn't working. just keep at it. don't cave for a second! good job standing your ground! it's hard but you gotta gotta do it!

[Drop_o_Rain]

Just keep going in and reassuring him...
poor baby.
good mommy.
he will fall asleep soon.

[Ginger Snap]

Good luck mumma...when it's time, it's time. He'll be fine. And so will you. =)

[heynow]

your doing the right thing,there is really no other way to do it.
hang in there.

[wabbit]

The crying stopped at 8:39, only about 50 minutes.. I went back up and asked him if he wanted twilight turtle back, but if I gave it to him, he couldn't stand on it.. he said yes, so I put it back in and he laid down and started adjusting his blankets (he sort of forms a little pillow under his head) So, I rubbed him back and told him that he was a big boy and I loved him. I've heard a few stray maaa meee's from upstairs since, but no crying. I am avoiding going up just yet to check on him as he is not crying and he is on that cusp. My husband went upstairs just now and peeked in.. I think we are good!!

I wanted to cave a few times, felt so bad, he was hiccuping and crying and sounded so sad, but then I thought of him choking on a piece of gnawed on pacifier and that made me smarten up..

Let's see how tomorrow night goes..

Thanks mamma's... :heart: oops, and daddy's... :heart:

[sarah b.]

:heart:

[wabbit]

4:15

this is the time that we woke up today. his diaper was soaked, so it work him up. grrr.. He finally settled down around 4:45ish (enough so that he was just doing the sporadic mama's and right at the time my husband had to get up for work), I even fell back asleep and then, then, then my loud husband came back upstairs to get dressed (I should have told him to just take his clothes downstairs with him) and that woke Gabe up. 5:20... yell yell scream scream.. He finally fell asleep or maybe I did first around 5:50 because my alarm went off at 6:45 and his room was quiet.

I am sooo tired.. granted I did get a nice 6 hours of sleep without incident, but.. Let's hope tonight is better..

Time to get some asprin, my head is absolutely pounding. I'll be looking for amusement around 3pm today when I crash on my desk at work..

[fire_rocket]

What a tough night!! You did the right thing though. Pretty soon he won't even remember what a pacifier is. :wink: Hope your day goes well, and tonight isn't too bad. :heart:

[Mama Kel]

Good job :heart: It's tough but the right thing to do.

Let us know how tonight goes - should be easier

[cj]

i hope bedtime is going well. stick to it, mama. it's tough and it breaks your heart, but it won't break your resolve. we've been through it, and with each day, it will start to get better. some kids accept quickly and others gradually, but they all accept it. ((((((((gabe)))))))))) :heart:

[wabbit]

Last night was a little better. He still cried for about 45 minutes, but it was a different cry, not as much screaming (there was still some!).. He woke up around 12:30a, I went in and changed his diaper (he was telling me no poopy which means he is wet or dirty).. I went back into my room and he was crying and carrying on a little bit, more or less half hearted. I fell asleep as did he. Heard a little whimpering at 5:30, but nothing worth getting out of bed for.

Soooo, a little better? His little voice is quite hoarse-- He understands that "nu-nu broken", he told me that this morning, so I am thinking that he is just trying to gain control and make us cave.

[shadeelady]

:heart: i have no advice...just hugs. (((((wabbit and gabe and broken nu-nu's)))))

[nan ce]

oh God...I dread the day we have to ween Della. We have pacifiers all over this house and she goes to bed with 3 of them (one in the mouth, one in each hand). I can't even imagine!

You definitely did the right thing. It must be pacifier weening time. My boss just weened her little girl (though her child is almost 4)

[Raynequeen]

i said "at the new year i will".... it's 3 weeks later i still scurred.
ha

she only has it at night for bed
but im wanting it out
she's not yet 2
maybe i'll wait til 2.

(((babies)))

[RedSquirrel]

Lucas only used a pacifier once, he never took to them, but he still LOVES his bottle at night.
During the day, it's sippy cups or cups with straws when I can get him to use them. I just can't seem to shake that bottle though.


Good job standing your ground mama!!

[NJFunk]

Last night was a little better. He still cried for about 45 minutes, but it was a different cry, not as much screaming (there was still some!).. He woke up around 12:30a, I went in and changed his diaper (he was telling me no poopy which means he is wet or dirty).. I went back into my room and he was crying and carrying on a little bit, more or less half hearted. I fell asleep as did he. Heard a little whimpering at 5:30, but nothing worth getting out of bed for.

Soooo, a little better? His little voice is quite hoarse-- He understands that "nu-nu broken", he told me that this morning, so I am thinking that he is just trying to gain control and make us cave.

Don't cave, or your whole life will end up a living hell for the next 18 years. He'll get over it, and don't feel bad about it, either, it's not like it's a necessity that you're denying him. I never ever caved even once on anything with my kids when hey were babies (I was also very conservative in making sure my demands fit the situation so that there wouldn't be times when I thought "it's no big deal if I give in", either...), and now they know I'm serious when I tell them to do something and do it. My wife wasn't as careful about not making demands that she didn't intend to carry through on and was more wishy washy about giving in, and now she has a much harder time controlling them.

I suppose it'll get worse again when they are teenagers, but for now, I'm definitely enjoying my authority.

[wabbit]

Success!!! Gabe whimpered for about 10 minutes last night, then fell asleep and we didn't hear from him until the morning. I of course was up 17,000 times last night because I had to keep checking to see if he was breathing! I was like, oh no, why isn't he screaming.. :lol:

The night before he tricked us, he went down perfectly, but then got up around 10:30 and cried and cried..

Let's hope tonight is better..

Rayne, is Magnolia shredding her pacifiers yet? That was my catalyst to say enough is enough.. I have heard that you can cut the tip off (if they aren't shredding them) and they don't like that.. Then gradually cut a little more each day until they don't want them anymore.. That might work.. I just had to go cold turkey as I figured Gabe would have gnawed on it no matter what and his teeth are like little razors, very sharp..

Sara-- maybe you could do the same thing with the bottle? maybe sabotage the nipple and Lucas will not want it anymore?

I am so proud of him, let's hope tonight is just as good. He woke up this morning telling me that the nunu was broken, so he totally gets it. Maybe he's figured out that he can't change our minds.. :heart:

[fire_rocket]

Yay!! Sounds like a good night. :heart: Hope it continues!

Can I just tell you that Maya is SO into her new gloworm that lights up and plays music. We always lay her down with it and she plays her songs and falls asleep to it. 2 nights ago there were some awful screams coming from her room so I was sure something was wrong. I went upstairs and the batteries were almost dead. She was SOOO pissed but it was pretty funny. We both went downstairs to change the batteries and she went right back to sleep.

Last night as she laid down the songs weren't sounding too good, so I knew the new batteries weren't good (they're rechargeables). I got out of there as fast as I could and stayed downstairs when she started crying again. We made sure to change the batteries so it will work good tonight. :lol: She just makes me laugh.

[wabbit]

That is funny! Gabe has his fish aquarium that lights up and plays music. It has three settings: just music, music & lights, music, lights & fishy moving. The last one drains batteries super fast, so we don't use it much. It is horrible to listen to when the batteries are dying. Gabe will lay there and kick the crap out of the thing when the batteries are going. (it is attached to the sides of his crib)..

[fire_rocket]

That is funny! Gabe has his fish aquarium that lights up and plays music. It has three settings: just music, music & lights, music, lights & fishy moving. The last one drains batteries super fast, so we don't use it much. It is horrible to listen to when the batteries are dying. Gabe will lay there and kick the crap out of the thing when the batteries are going. (it is attached to the sides of his crib)..

:lol: Kicking his aquarium... :lol: Maya was pounding her glo worm in her crib; I think a few minutes later and she would have thrown it across the room. :lmao:

[wabbit]

I think if he could have figured out how to unlatch it, we'd have heard that go sailing as well! He is a big fan of tossing his crib when he is upset!

such temper, you'd think he was irish.. tee hee..

[Mama Kel]

such temper, you'd think he was irish.. tee hee..

Hey now!! :ravn: j/k

We used to have te aquarium too - loved it. But it was mighty pathetic when the batteries got low! :funny1:

Tip for weaning bottles: give full strength liquid in the sip cup and a watered down version in the bottle - they'll usually pick the cup :wink:

[wabbit]

Kel, I'm Irish too! My husband is German, so poor Gabe is destined to be a hot headed emotional mess.. :funny1:

[RedSquirrel]

Tip for weaning bottles: give full strength liquid in the sip cup and a watered down version in the bottle - they'll usually pick the cup :wink:

Good idea, I will start trying that too! Thanks!