Be honest.......i need an ego boost. Anyone think i'm cute? or talented or funny?,,

[Don Nucka]

Physically, or mannerisms-wise, or my lifestyle (keep it PG-13), or my sense of humor, or if we've never met, my writing style. jokes etc...............?
I'm serious. I'm not depressed at all but a few compliments thrown my way would be cool. I could use them. Anyne who has actually slept with me, cuddled with me, heard me play music or read somethin i wrote i'm down to hear some good reviews. Yes, it is late, and yes i am iniebriated, but this would make my day (and my nonboardie roommate's)

[sarah b.]

You're huggable when you're not too wasted. There is a photo to prove that on my hard drive somewhere.

[Don Nucka]

thank you sara. it's good to know that 1 of 11 viewers od this post think i have one redeeming quality.

[teabag]

bend over i am sure someone here will give u an ego boost :lol:

[TEO]

The one time I spent more than the quick hello talking with you, I found you to be intelligent, engaging, and soft spoken.

As for physical attibutes, when you are well groomed, you are :naughty:

[Amethyst]

this thread is useless without pics.

:)

[Don Nucka]

this thread is useless without pics.

:)

I'm working on it. it's hard to find pics of me online by my own design

[Don Nucka]

PS-Just for curiousity sake...On the way old boards, were you Monucka?? I always just kind of assumed you were...But I never thought to ask

Yeah. I been here longtime.

[Don Nucka]

The one time I spent more than the quick hello talking with you, I found you to be intelligent, engaging, and soft spoken.

As for physical attibutes, when you are well groomed, you are :naughty:



Why thank you............you are not so bad yourself..................now that i'm growing out of my paranoia phase, since i no longer do much to be paranoid about, i'll try to dig up some pics sometime tonight, they'll be in this thread. I still don't tell anyone my real name till i meet them (residual paranoia)

[Don Nucka]

PS-you too.:heart:

[Don Nucka]

So how do I find out if I think you are talented?

musically, you have to meet me and hear me play, i am working on putting together a demo, once i get this new job and back unemployment money it'll be easier

writing-wise, just email or pm and i'll send you a sample, like the first chapter of my new book or my "quarantine tent" intro to my as yet unnamed road book.

[Don Nucka]

You're huggable when you're not too wasted. There is a photo to prove that on my hard drive somewhere.


i kind of want to see this..........i think..........

[Don Nucka]

oh, pics.............these are small on purpose, i try not to let many pics of me get online
Here's one w/ me and my guitar.........my hair is somewhat shorter now
http://a665.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images01/44/a_d2b24066.jpg

[Don Nucka]

dammit cant figure it out.
Here's my myspace page
www.myspace.com/stumbles714

go to pics, then tagged photos, the one with me with the girl in the green hoodie (first pic in the tagged photos album), thats the most recent one. my hair is shorter than it used to be and i lost weight since most of the other pics

[JamOnIt247]

WellDon.. I dont know you really all that well.. but your posts always seem to have a mix of something intelligent, witty, and humorous to say!

Plus you're from Mass and you're wearing a Boston shirt on your myspace profile... so that alone makes you rock! ;)

[Creekie]

Nucka, I think you're very funny. I like the way you say it like it is, no BS... you're very impressive with the guitar, and you're really a good friend.:heart:

[bast]

(((Nucka)))
I don't know you, but seem to be very thoughtful person, an agreeable trait IMO.

[Don Nucka]

Nucka, I think you're very funny. I like the way you say it like it is, no BS... you're very impressive with the guitar, and you're really a good friend.:heart:



Yeah, i was born without that filter between the brain and the mouth/keyboard. If i'm thinking it, you'll probably hear it or read it.

[Milarepa]

you need to get your phone turned back on there kiddo

[Panda]

this thread is useless without pics pathetic.



fixed. :plain:

[Don Nucka]

fixed. :plain:



aww.....how cute. Did you ever think that i might have been feeling extra good about life/myself and wanted an exrta boost to that feeling? If you find the thread "pathetic", don't participate in it.

[Milarepa]

your unreliable

but i'm used to it so I forgive you for swearing you'll do such and such when its obvious you most likely wont.

could be why I dont jump on doing things for you.

im not bitter im drunk

[Don Nucka]

your unreliable

but i'm used to it so I forgive you for swearing you'll do such and such when its obvious you most likely wont.

could be why I dont jump on doing things for you.

im not bitter im drunk

fuck you, i drink a lot. I'll be more reliable from now on.

[unbroken_chain]

:heart:

[TEO]

The one time I spent more than the quick hello talking with you, I found you to be intelligent, engaging, and soft spoken.

As for physical attibutes, when you are well groomed, you are :naughty:

:heart:

[unbroken_chain]

I won't go so far as to say Tim was cute... :funny1:; but he was most certainly talented, and very very funny... once he felt comfortable enough to be himself without immediate judgement... but anyway :smile: I only knew him in person for a total of 7 hours or so.

[Jersey Thug]

whatta douche.

actually, he isn't. he's one of the best guys i know, a great husband, father, musician and friend. there was a reason for his negative opinion of this thread and others like it. and yes it's a shame that Nucka didn't live longer or have the opportunity to change that opinion, which was shared to some degree by plenty of folks around here.

the fact that he never had a chance to change that perception (or misperception, depending on your real-life experiences with Nucka) doesn't make Panda or anyone else a douche. not back then or even in retrospect, as bad as that post seems now that he's gone.

just sayin'. :heart:

[Jersey Thug]

OK - it was a douchey comment regardless, I read the whole thread.... he popped in and did the ol "fixed it for ya" and added something douchey. simple as that. don't really give a fuck about his "reason" then or now.
I'm sure it was an excellent reason though, perhaps just the need to stoop.

don't get me wrong, I know for sure Tim said a lot of douchey things along the way here.

just sayin :heart:

and perhaps not. :dunno:

regardless, i'm sure you had a perfectly valid reason for digging up a sensitive thread that hasn't been posted in for going on three years, and then using it to call someone out who isn't around to defend himself. if i were to hazard a guess i'd say it probably has something to do with the anniversary of Nucka's death, though i'm not sure why you'd choose this as a way to honor his memory.

and to be honest, i don't really give a fuck about your "reason".

(i'm sure it was an excellent one though.)

[TEO]

Perhaps we can take a lesson from this, as we never really know what people are dealing with outside of this forum. :heart:

[Jersey Thug]

i think we can all agree on that.

[BHB]

:heart:

http://i27.photobucket.com/albums/c161/anoo105/tim-1.jpg

[Julius]

I've got a few great Tim stories I could tell. . . like the time I left the back door open for him in case he didn't get a ticket for this WSP panic show we were all going to. . . he didn't get the ticket, we all came back to party 5 hours later and he was hanging out freezing his ass off on my neighbor's back porch because he was trying to get in to the wrong door. :lol:

Ahhh Tim, so many memories, so few I can tell in public. :heart:

[BHB]

:lol:

and ya I hear that. :gop:

[china cat]

maybe in his spirit, the negative post in the thread that started the discontent and those that follow could be deleted? :heart:

[unbroken_chain]

you know what Jennie, your're right.. my comment was uncalled for... sometimes I get fired up where it's not my place to do so.

I read thru the whole thread before seein his seemingly cruel entry... and reacted.... I barely knew Nucka other than for a few short hours outside of years of board talk... so, I recant with a nod and a smile. :smile:

Respect and love; and Kindness even to those who may not always deserve it

*except child rapists, I'll still cut their heads clean off given the chance :panic:

[china cat]

that was nice, chris.

we all react, mores so than we should. i'm in process of learning a huge lesson about this right now. which, sadly won't stop my emotion from getting the best of me in the future.

but making nice after we do it, is a start :smile:

peace everybody :heart::heart:

[Karen]

:heart:

[Jersey Thug]

thank you Chris. for my part, i'm sorry my second response turned sarcastic despite my best intentions. it wasn't ever my intention to start an argument with you, but to defend a good friend who has become family to me. sometimes i get fired up, too.

"As the sun makes ice melt, kindness causes misunderstanding, mistrust and hostility to evaporate."

i like that :)

[Kawak]

I'm sitting here trying to put words to this but everything i've typed 3-4 times now i've erased. bear with me here if my thoughts seem disjointed or far from eloquent at this point i'm working from the gut, the heart and flowing on stream of consciousness cause nothing else has worked so far.

Speaking from a personal standpoint, in Nucka I saw someone who was incredibly intelligent, yet seemingly chose, for whatever reason or personal demon, to squander it and then brag about it publicly. for me, it seemed a cry for help. he often seemed to know better and that what he was choosing to do and then boast about was often, seemingly, his darkest side.

I think, looking back restrospectively, I was trying desperately with another approach. One of frankness. Did I sometimes overstep my bounds? absolutely. I'm passionate and sometimes lack perspective when I get caught up in the moment. Did I ever say things to Tim to cut him emotionally? hell no. Were they often perceived as attacks? yep. Why? I guess, looking back on it, it is because this community is so close, for better or worse, that people are often afraid to be frank with some people for fear of offending when sometimes, a firm hand is what folks need.

I say a firm hand because I speak from personal experience. I've often needed my balls busted by folks I respect (and hell oftentimes even by folks I didn't respect but needed it from them too!). At the time, I was probably irritated or offended. Now though, looking back on it, perspective and time has given me the ability to extract some of the lessons from these experiences that people were trying to share with me. I frequently thought, and some would argue erroneously so, that Tim needed a firm hand. I felt he needed some people to speak the other side, the uncomfortable and hard-to-hear antithesis, of the warm and almost coddling responses other folks sometimes had to offer. (and I don't say that to detract from anyone making their own personal approach.)

Now in retrospect, it is so much easier to say what we each should have done personally or think others should have done. There's no instruction manual on how to live this life. We're each our own author. We write our own story. In my own, often overly harsh way, I was trying to get Tim to realize, as an author by trade, he was an author by birth because he was human. He not only had a responsibility to write the stories of the lives of each character he felt the need to share with the world but he also had a distinct responsibility to stop blaming the world and try to take control of his own story... to write each chapter to the best of his ability. In the end, one of the great injustices of the whole thing is that it really does seem that he was finally starting to be the author of his own destiny.

I wrote all this in part because I wanted people to understand why I wrote the things I wrote in his threads but also to try to explain why others may have taken a similar approach.

RIP nucka.
Thanks for the reminder to write my own story.
I'm deeply sorry for any pain I may have caused in a blind dash to try to help.
I think we both know; nobody is perfect in this life.
I hope where ever you are, in whatever comes next, that you understand.
:heart:

[TEO]

:heart::heart::heart:

[sarah b.]

Nothing justifies projecting one's anger about same-category incidents onto another. Which isn't to say I don't understand some of the reasons why some folks reacted to him as they did. Understanding some people's triggers helped me be less livid at some people who laid into him, and for that, I'm grateful. A call to delete posts reflects ignorance of his spirit. Retrospect doesn't bring dead people back. Some posters of that era and the current one laid into him really hard very soon before he died. Regardless of what anyone thinks anyone needed or thinks their spirit would find honorable or what triggers strong emotional reactions from people, I take comfort in the knowledge that he's no longer in earth's version of pain and is far too busy jamming with Jerry to give a rat's ass about any of the recent posts in this thread. No one has walked in anyone else's shoes. Kawak, you were spot on re: the injustice, but he had a way to go from clean and sober to actually working through his shit and treating his depression. I'm glad he's not hurting anymore.

[KittyRocks]

nucka, wherever you may be, if you can see this, i never had anything but fun with you! :heart: