Do you ever feel like a crummy parent?

[irie]

today was 'dress down day' and i sent Aidan to school today wearing his uniform.

now, it costs $1 to dress down, so he won't be the only one in his uniform, but still. i could of hooked that up for him. (thankfully he's wearing his gym uniform which is all sweats so i bet he's even comfier, but you get what i'm saying)

do you ever feel like you're doing a crummy job as a parental unit?

[cybertentbob]

you just gotta do the best you can and cross your fingers;-)
I do feel guilty sometimes.....I get depressed that my daughter wont have all the benefits I did growing up........

[irie]

I know I'm doing the best that I can and I'm confident that i'm doing a good job. of course i'm not perfect and could always improve, but that's not what i'm talking about, you know?

[fire_rocket]

I have felt that way many times, and Maya's still so young I'm sure I have years of that ahead of me. It's hard being a parent!!

[heynow]

sometimes I feel that way,but you do the best you can.as long as your kids are happy,healthy,and good respectful little people your doing ok.:wink:

[irie]

yep. i know.

[KARSEN]

Def. have Kate. Especially withthings like that..like us having to work when KAelas class had a fall fun day and one parent was allowed to come and help their child with games and stuff..I know she wasn't the only kid without a parent there but I swear it bummed me out for days. But its silly I know..I know we are great parents and she has all she needs..I think having these feeling can actually mean you ARE a good parent though:) I know you are a goooooooood mama woman! We all are. There is no blueprint so we are all wingin it:lol:

[In A Silent Way]

Yep.

[Joia]

yep.

[Wende]

All the time Kate. I think if you didn't feel that way, you are probably really are a crummy parent. :)

[Misha]

Yes, I have. Especially this Christmas--money was really tight and we barely celebrated. I know presents aren't what it's all about but still, it makes me feel like crying when I think about it.

[sums]

when my kids were older, i talked to each of them. (esp makai because i left his dad and didn't spend most of a few years with him... talk about feeling like a crummy parent! :eek: )

i let them know what i thought i did wrong, big stuff and small stuff. i asked them what they thought i did wrong... i let them know that i was aware of it all and that i only ever loved them, no matter what.

i am extremely close with each of them and they still think i'm the best mom in the whole world (despite my flaws ;) ) :) :heart:

[unbroken_chain]

I know I'm doing a good job overall with the "important" stuff, like teaching them to be kind, polite, giving, open minded... all that jazz..

But, I do worry about the day to day shit... today was "Career Day" for Sierra, where you are supposed to dress like what you want to be when you grow up. Well.... she want's to be a Wildlife Veternarian (this week) and, its not like I have that kinda gear just laying around. So she shot down all my suggestions... but I refused to go out and buy stuff for this. I felt badly, but I mean... I already get a list at the beginning of the year and have to buy a ton of shit...

anyway.... yeah, sometimes I do. But I do my best.

[Mama Kel]

I think as a society we get wrapped up in the importance of things too much. It's just starting for me b/c mine are still little

but anytime I feel crappy b/c I can't give them exactly what they want or what they feel they need, I think about my childhood. My parents were piss poor, my dad worked 4 jobs to keep my mom home with us, I spent most of my childhood digging with kitchen spoons in the backyard, playing manhunt, catching snapping turtles with frisbees from the swamp, and building forts out of crap from the trash.

All of my friends had atari, colecovision, intellivison, the star wars millenium falcon, the latest barbie, cabbage patch dolls, or whatever else was the obsession of the time - I didn't have any of it.

Ya know what? I have nothing but fond memories of my childhood, I loved every minute of it & I can only hope my kids grow up as happy as I did

[wookie luvvah]

Yup - you bet. Last night was spent doing a lot of self review and questioning.

[bast]

I'm blessed with a really bad example, seriously.

I didn't really follow your post, I think your boy is in a private type of schooling (not a general sign of being a bad, or rather thoughtless mother), you care a lot obviously.
All we can do is our best.:heart:

[sums]

I think as a society we get wrapped up in the importance of things too much. It's just starting for me b/c mine are still little

but anytime I feel crappy b/c I can't give them exactly what they want or what they feel they need, I think about my childhood. My parents were piss poor, my dad worked 4 jobs to keep my mom home with us, I spent most of my childhood digging with kitchen spoons in the backyard, playing manhunt, catching snapping turtles with frisbees from the swamp, and building forts out of crap from the trash.

All of my friends had atari, colecovision, intellivison, the star wars millenium falcon, the latest barbie, cabbage patch dolls, or whatever else was the obsession of the time - I didn't have any of it.

Ya know what? I have nothing but fond memories of my childhood, I loved every minute of it & I can only hope my kids grow up as happy as I did

this is beautiful mama, thanks for sharing that :heart:

[dannydonx]

you just gotta do the best you can and cross your fingers;-)
I do feel guilty sometimes.....I get depressed that my daughter wont have all the benefits I did growing up........

you know what i do sometimes. but we just can't make the same mistake twice.

[Nevrmore]

I feel bad right now because I had planned a dinner/movie night for Mike and I, then realized I had already RSVP'd Aidan for his friend Anna's birthday party that's from 330-530, and I'm bristley because my kids social life is interferring with mine.

[Mama Kel]

I think we all have mommy/daddy guilt at some point. Regardless of how unavoidable the situation is or if the situation is the best possible for your child given the circumstances. :heart:

[bast]

Fortunately it's my parental guilt that is MAKING me cook dinner even though I don't wanna.
I feel crappy about not wanting to cook for me boys.

[irie]

i'm never hungry at dinnertime and i never wanna cook.

i think that's perfectly normal. now, if we didn't actually do it. that would be a problem :lol:

[Ginger Snap]

Crummy parent, yeah, sometimes. But I try to look at my kids, and they're just so darn cool. I gotta be doing something right, right?

I once sent ran around from grocery store to grocery store looking for a pumkin for Abby to bring to school- that morning she needed it. Every damn pumpkin had been sold for three towns. So I bought her some kind of big green gorde. I felt really embarressed and bummed for her. But she had the coolest carving.

[KindGeeGirl]

If it cost $1 to dress down I'd give my kid $2 just in case a friend forgot theirs. I always felt bad for kids in uniform. My sister had one :funny1:

Crummy is relative. You are doing fine :)

I hate it when I mess up though. It happens :heart:

today was 'dress down day' and i sent Aidan to school today wearing his uniform.

now, it costs $1 to dress down, so he won't be the only one in his uniform, but still. i could of hooked that up for him. (thankfully he's wearing his gym uniform which is all sweats so i bet he's even comfier, but you get what i'm saying)

do you ever feel like you're doing a crummy job as a parental unit?

[irie]

If it cost $1 to dress down I'd give my kid $2 just in case a friend forgot theirs. I always felt bad for kids in uniform. My sister had one :funny1:

Crummy is relative. You are doing fine :)

I hate it when I mess up though. It happens :heart:


I do do that! Not only for other kids, but also in case i dress him down and forget the dollar :lol:

crummy is relative and in the grand scheme of things, crummy is way better than the alternative. but crummy still sucks :lol:

[unbroken_chain]

i'm never hungry at dinnertime and i never wanna cook.

i think that's perfectly normal. now, if we didn't actually do it. that would be a problem :lol:


I like to cook, but yeah, some nights.... not hungry, pissy mood... not feeling it.

I keep several things around that Sierra can "fix up" her self on those occasions... I tell ya, that kid CAN EAT:lol:.