Stupid Phish!!!

[Sunny Sunshine]

So, it's looking like on June 6th (my wedding day!) Phish will be playing Greatwoods. That means many of our friends will need to make a choice between coming to our wedding, or going to see Phish :sad:

[Dr. Lostreality]

I thought those dates were all rumors, none confirmed?

[Sunny Sunshine]

None confirmed, but I don't see a ticket agency putting up false dates, ya know?

[Wende]

Where did you get this info? And i'm sorry, but if your friends have to make a choice? I can't even finish that sentence.
put it this way, I wouldn't miss my friends wedding for the world.

[HoopsTer]

oh Tiff, that sucks! Im so sorry.

:blush: I missed my cousin's wedding for Clifford Ball. :oops:
But we were never friends, in fact we didnt/dont get along so well. I would skip Phish in a heartbeat for a friend that I love. Im sure your friends will too.

Hey, Im skipping Stonehenge for my friend Mags wedding....and I love stonehenge. :lol:

:heart:

[Wende]

Yea, thats huge Hoopstereeno :lol:

[Mr_Pat]

http://www.billboard.com/bbcom/news/phish-reveals-reunion-tour-details%20-1003928432.story

[georgi]

We will be there, Tiff. Rich already has plans set in motion for us to go to Jones Beach (if we get tickets) and then travel to NH. :) :bliss: :heart:

[Sunny Sunshine]

:lol: Trav will be at night 1 at Jones if he can get tickets :lol:

[Geminimoon]

June 6th is my birthday!

[wabbit]

:heart: breathe, they'll be in audience to be with you! I know it..

(meaning, they'll be at your wedding, not the audience in mansfield)..

[vinandtonic]

And i'm sorry, but if your friends have to make a choice? I can't even finish that sentence.
put it this way, I wouldn't miss my friends wedding for the world.


agreed.

I did miss a coworker's wedding because I was in London, but that was a once in a lifetime trip.
I missed another coworker's wedding because we were on moe. tour, but those plans had been made months before I got the invite to the wedding, and we weren't really friends outside of work.

[deadheadskier]

The Phish show isn't the only thing happening that day. There will be numerous other things that friends/family have or have to make a commitment to that will prevent them from coming. Sometimes, something so simple as having a major work commitment.

Think of it that way

The day is for you and Travis and you will be surrounded by many that love the both of you and want to share that moment with you.

I say this coming from experience. My best friend decided got married last September during moe.down weekend, which reveur and I planned on going to. I grumbled a bit about missing the festival, but only jokingly, I wouldn't have missed his wedding for the world.......even though a year and a half later they're getting a divorce and we missed out on some good tunes :lol:

Don't worry about it is what I'm saying

[Sunny Sunshine]

I'm really not worried about it :lol: I was that day, but a lot of stuff had been going wrong with the wedding plans.

If they are our friends and love us, they'll be there for us. If not, well we'll know how much certain people actually.

Going to a concert is a lot different than someone having a previous work commitment or otherwise. Everyone has known about the wedding date since September :shrug:

I can't wait to spend the day with Travis and the people that I love the most :heart:

[Wende]

People getting divorced after 2 years... it shouldn't be allowed. I mean come on, give it a chance. Sad.

I LOVE what you said at the end there DHS, about "Dammit, you made us miss some good tunes for that?" :lol: in my own words of course.

[vinandtonic]

[QUOTE=Wende;39911]People getting divorced after 2 years... it shouldn't be allowed. I mean come on, give it a chance. Sad.
QUOTE]


yes, it is sad..but my first marriage ended in divorce after 1 1/2 years because he cheated. just sayin. ;)

[Wende]

How long were you together before hand? Just wondering. And p.s. I don't blame you. ;) Sad though.

[Jersey Thug]

People getting divorced after 2 years... it shouldn't be allowed. I mean come on, give it a chance. Sad.


shouldn't be allowed? :huh:

i was with Pat for 13 years, but only married a year when our relationship ended. we gave it a chance and then some, Wende. yes divorce is sad, but when you know it isn't working anymore, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.

waiting another year or two (or five) isn't going to change that, and i've seen an awful lot of 'couples' become bitter and estranged in the process of trying to make each other into what they need...to the point where they're no longer capable of having a healthy relationship or trusting anyone anymore. meanwhile, despite the pain of our breakup, my ex and i are very much in each others' lives still, and we hope to be friends always.

so IMO when you know you're no longer compatible as a couple (even if you're married) it's much healthier to accept the truth and allow for the fact that sometimes things don't work out the way you thought they would than to stick with it for the benefit of others who have no stake in your decisions anyway.

[Wende]

I forgot this directly affects you and I am sorry about that. I just see so many people that jump into marriage so lightly and quickly only to give up after a couple years of marriage. Good example, Hollywood. Ok, poor example, but still. Come on man, why get married? Because it's fun to do at the moment?
As long as their are no kids involved and you didn't put your family into debt because of it, then so be it. But most of the time (from my experience, nobody is ever willing to give it a shot. It's always about selfishness. Bla.
Eh, so be it. We are what we are and people will do what they do. Sorry to offend anyone. It is never my ultimate goal.

p.s. Where were you NYE? :lol:

[Jersey Thug]

um...at home, in bed :blush: :lol:

long story :lol: :lol: :lol:

sorry i missed seeing you guys while you were in town! i'm sure you managed to have some fun anyways though :dance: :dance: :dance: :dance:

[deadheadskier]

People getting divorced after 2 years... it shouldn't be allowed. I mean come on, give it a chance. Sad.

I LOVE what you said at the end there DHS, about "Dammit, you made us miss some good tunes for that?" :lol: in my own words of course.

They were together for four years prior to getting married. They actually started having some problems a couple months prior to the wedding, but tried to work through them.

It was clear to me after six months of marriage that their relationship wasn't going to make it. There was no point in continuing to try.

I hear what you're saying, but I definitely don't condone states controlling people's relationships. Take Maryland for instance; you have to be legally separated for a year prior to divorce. A friend of mine went through hell during that year and her now ex-husband did everything in his power to try and crush her financially and emotionally.

[Lemireacle]

People getting divorced after 2 years... it shouldn't be allowed. I mean come on, give it a chance. Sad.

I haven't been married, but I am the youngest from a large family, with a couple of siblings who have been divorced, and I know and can say that as much as you can give it a chance, if it's not working, it's not working and it's probably best to move on.

The couple who lived across the street from my parent's house when I was growing up were together for 19 years and never married. They always seemed so happy and full of life when they were together!! They decided to go ahead and get married. In less than a year and a half, they were divorced.

[JamOnIt247]

I think Marriage can def. work when it involves the right people but I listened to my parents when they said, dont get married... and dont have kids. and boy oh boy am I glad I took their advice so far! Many of my friends think that's a horrible way to look at life but I just feel that you can believe in "for better, for worse" without being married!

[Lemireacle]

I think Marriage can def. work when it involves the right people but I listened to my parents when they said, dont get married... and dont have kids. and boy oh boy am I glad I took their advice so far! Many of my friends think that's a horrible way to look at life but I just feel that you can believe in "for better, for worse" without being married!

I totally agree that it can work... my parents were married almost 60 years. But watching my brother just older than me get married and then go through a divorce, the neighbors who I wrote about, and some friends around me have definitely jaded opinions on marriage I once had.

[Karen]

You don't know until you know.

[Jesse D]

If your friends chose a phish show over your wedding, that'd be pretty lame-o. But, that's my opinion.

[Wende]

You don't know until you know.



oh, that canNOT be any more true man. It's an amazing thing. I have been through a marriage and divorce already. I remember my husband (at the time, Jay) saying "Wende, I love you with all of my heart, but, I know in my heart that you belong with him (todd)"

[Karen]

oh, that canNOT be any more true man. It's an amazing thing. I have been through a marriage and divorce already. I remember my husband (at the time, Jay) saying "Wende, I love you with all of my heart, but, I know in my heart that you belong with him (todd)"


Wow.

[Wende]

Yea, he was great and still is. When something is meant to be, it happens at the craziest times and those that love you most sometimes see it first.
May 16th is going to be a very special day for me.

[Luna]

I think Marriage can def. work when it involves the right people but I listened to my parents when they said, dont get married... and dont have kids. and boy oh boy am I glad I took their advice so far! Many of my friends think that's a horrible way to look at life but I just feel that you can believe in "for better, for worse" without being married!

:heart:

[kramer]

who invited lemire to this thread?? :lol:

i'm excited for may 16th! :)