so my little girl is not so little anymore.

[nydeadhead]

i mean i know she will be 11 in 9 days and i have been buying her kiddy bras cause she is starting to show. and with a mom like me lol you know she will have a huge rack. they run in our family. but the other day we were at myrtle beach for a week in dec. and i noticed while she was blocking the sun from her eyes tha i saw a few hairs under her arms. i was like wow. where has the time gone. i mean its not like i see under her arms everyday she is old enough to shower and stuff on her own. i just not sure after all the i can't wait till she grows up and stuff now she is and i am not sure if i am ready. lol.... i know when i was in school we had our "talk" at school where the boys went to the gym and we went into the autotourim and we talked about our periods and what happens when we become women. and then we giggle on the bus and show each other our books we got.

oh man am i ready for this...sigh.

anyone got any advice. i know this fourm is mostly about little kiddys but what about the big ones. lol

[fire_rocket]

I don't have any advice, but I imagine you'll get plenty of helpful responses from some of the moms of older kids here. :)

Did you talk to her about her body yet? I would only recommend being open and honest with her. :heart:

[Joia]

I shaved on my own in secret, no one taught me how or anything like that. my parents taught me very little about hygiene and personal care.

I think you should talk to her... feel her out, ya know?

:heart:

[Mama Kel]

I agree with being open & honest. It might be too embarrassing for her to bring up.

[KindGeeGirl]

My son turns 12 in April. It's nuts. He smells, won't let me see him naked, actually stopped jerking off all the time, walks to the store by himself, buys me stuff, takes responsibility, sleeps till noon if I let him and I paid him $10 to pop his second zit. (Grandma got the first one.) Oh and two weeks before the election gave me an explantion that it's mathmatically impossible for Bush to win that made me stand with my mouth open for a minute. These crazy babies are turning into people. Scary shit here.

My daughter is 5 but me at 15. She has already started to pick out cute guys to me. I'm scared.

Good luck girl :)

[KindGeeGirl]

Advice.............things don't get any easier, just different. But I think you realized that by now ;)

Be honest, stay consistent, choose your battles :heart:

[mamapajama]

Kia,
Em is 13 now. I gave her a shaving "kit" for her 13th birthday...she is blonde though so had just asked about shaving around that time. We went in the bathroom and did a demo on a leg and she was set. Brunette me was a little younger when I started shaving.
I got her some make-up then too and she does a good job of not overdoing that.
I got her the American Girl book on puberty a few years ago and we read it at the same time and some of it together. So, she knows what's happening and what will happen. It just sorta helped open up the dialogue. She's a reserved person and I try to respect that so I wait until we're alone to see if she thinks we need to break out the measuring tape for the next bra size. I have all the bathrooms stocked with supplies for when that day comes and she has something in her purse in case it happens at school. I wouldn't be surprised if I don't find out about it right away.
I talked to her about skin care and made sure she has the supplies she needs. Fortunately, she takes care of that without any prodding from me and acne, so far, is not a problem...just a few pimples so far that she has handled properly.

[KindGeeGirl]

AWE :heart:


Kia,
Em is 13 now. I gave her a shaving "kit" for her 13th birthday...she is blonde though so had just asked about shaving around that time. We went in the bathroom and did a demo on a leg and she was set. Brunette me was a little younger when I started shaving.
I got her some make-up then too and she does a good job of not overdoing that.
I got her the American Girl book on puberty a few years ago and we read it at the same time and some of it together. So, she knows what's happening and what will happen. It just sorta helped open up the dialogue. She's a reserved person and I try to respect that so I wait until we're alone to see if she thinks we need to break out the measuring tape for the next bra size. I have all the bathrooms stocked with supplies for when that day comes and she has something in her purse in case it happens at school. I wouldn't be surprised if I don't find out about it right away.
I talked to her about skin care and made sure she has the supplies she needs. Fortunately, she takes care of that without any prodding from me and acne, so far, is not a problem...just a few pimples so far that she has handled properly.

[nydeadhead]

this is all good to know. my mom never did or said anything to me when i was a kid. i asked about shaving she said no. when i did get my period i was like mom..i think i got my period. she said good welcome to womanhood and that was it. the only info i got was from school which was not much back in the day. i think that is why i don't do much with my hair and don't wear makeup. my mom never did so she never taught me. i tried once and looked like a food got made fun of in middle school and never wore makeup again. to this day i am still clueless. and shaving i learned on my own. cut myself a few times before i knew what i was doing. so i guess its harder for me to teach her things i don't even know. i try to let her be more independant on some things but mom holds her back a bit in my eyes. i dont know. just an ackward time in my life i dont want it to be for her but damm how do you teach what you don't know?

[Sunshower]

Kia, you are a GOOD mom. Just do what you feel you should do. It is scary these days tho. My lil 8 year old niece is like goin on 20!:eek:

[unbroken_chain]

My Sierra is on the cusp of 10... and shows signs of pre-adolescence all the time. I've always been very open with here about "girl stuff" , i.e. when I go to the store for an emergency tampon run for my 15 year old... the conversation ensues... she's very inquisitive and pragmatic... so she's just like, " hmmm... guess I'm glad I'm still a pre-teen daddy!!"

now her mom is hitting me up Again to have Sierra (only) move back to CT with her... which flips me the fuck out. whole nother thread there.

[mamapajama]

Kia, The older they get, the more we can't be all things to them. It is good for her to have other women influences in her life so don't shy away from asking someone you know to help her with make up.
Over the past year, Em has had an evening with Sarah B. and no parents at Grassroots and days helping Wende with her hoop booth and shared dog walks with my nextdoor neighbor. I want her to know that there are other women she can go to if there is ever anything she'd rather talk to someone else with than me.
Maybe someone you know sells Avon or Mary Kay and would agree to do a little whatever with her (when the time is right).

And kudos to UC. You're awesome.

[little frog]

i loved kerri's advice. i also bought miss e a book on puberty and let her look through it and ask me anything she wanted. she's much more girly than i am, so she taught me how to wear makeup .. haha.

i also took her out to dinner to celebrate her womenhood when she got her first period.

as long as you don't scare her or embarrass her i think you're all good ;)

you can do it! and this forum is also good for us parents with older children.

[sums]

i love the idea of celebrating womanhood. many years ago i went to a girls "coming of age party" for a friends daughter. it was all the girls friends and her mom's (women) friends and we all gave her small gifts or poems or just words of encouragement. she absolutely loved it and felt very special :)

[sarah b.]

Em has had an evening with Sarah B. and no parents at Grassroots

That was so much fun! :jam: :heart: :dance:
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As far as shaving goes, as far as I know, it grows back how you do it the first time (or the opposite, I don't remember, I just know that my friend, Toby, wend ear to ear, the first time he shaved, and now his beard grows in one side first). I shaved my legs by myself the first time. It grows in in different directions. :lol:
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As for learning how to do girly stuff, I picked up a lot of that stuff as I aged. A lot from folks on the boards or on the internet. Make-up is a skill that can be learned from a book -- that's why there's cosmetology school and stuff -- for folks who really want to study that.

My aunt told me that makeup should make you look like you're not wearing any, just emphasize your best features. I don't wear it much, but I try to keep that in mind, when I do.
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About a week before I turned 12, I got my first period. About a week before that, my mom sent me to the upstairs bathroom at my grandma's house with a different aunt, and she showed me how to correctly insert a tampon (o.b.). That info sure came in handy! :lol:
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Both aunts I mentioned are the ones with whom I'm still the closest.
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Kia. :heart:

[heynow]

my girls,they grew so fast:crying:

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Mal baby
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Mal now
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Ava baby
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Ava now
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Hilly baby
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