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[hippiechickme]

:crying: My daughter had a huge fight with my husband yesterday over her lack of taking proper care of her son. She then packed up and took my grandson Damien away. She moved in with her father. Not a healthy environment for then there in my opinion either but nothing I can do. She won;t take my calls, I miss Damien. I have taken care of him every day since he was born. This is tearing my heart out.
Sorry for the whining post here but needed to vent. I am so sad. :crying:
What a horrible start to the new year.

[Sunny Sunshine]

Oh Eileen :heart: I'm so sorry! Hopefully she'll realize what's she missing and come home shortly :heart:

[fire_rocket]

:heart: So sorry to hear that! It must break your heart not to have Damien with you. Hope she comes to her senses soon. :heart:

[Terry Bo Berry]

maybe she needs this time away from you to understand everything you do to help her and the baby. Love to you. :heart:

[sums]

have you talked to your husband about it?

[hippiechickme]

Thank you everyone. While Maggie does need to find somewhere else to live and needs to learn how to care for Damien properly on her own, she has not brought him to a good place. He needs to be in a calm and safe place. He shouldn;t be here with the issues between Maggie and my husband either. She called me a while ago flipping out. Hopefully we can all resolve this soon.

[hippiechickme]

have you talked to your husband about it?

Yes I talked with him and I was there during their fight yesterday. Maggie was told to make other living arrangements, that her living with us was not working. She was not told to get out right then, nor that she was being thrown out. Living in turmoil is no good for anyone.

[wabbit]

Oh Eileen, I hope things can be resolved :heart:

[sums]

i'm so sorry that's so hard.... my husband threw my older son out when he was 18. i wouldn't have, if it were just me, but he really needed to get the boot.

those situations are so difficult and sensitive :heart:

[hippiechickme]

Yes this is so very very hard. My daughter is 19 but very very immature and she can also be very very hostile at times. She needs to grow up and move on but I did not want it to happen like this. There is no doubt that she loves Damien very much, but she does not take proper care of him. He is my concern right now. I have fed and changed and cleaned and loved him since the day he was born, now he isn;t here and I don;t quite know what to do.

[sums]

it sounds like maybe she needs to take a basic parenting class...? do they have anything like that where you live? maybe she also needs to talk to someone about her anger issues. usually, when someone deals with their anger, a lot of other good things fall into place :heart:

[hippiechickme]

Yes there are parenting classes here. Right now she is not taking my calls though so guess I will just have to wait it out. She will need me soon to help now doubt.

[sums]

i really hope that she can see what kind of help she needs. good luck! it's so hard being a parent sometimes, no matter how old your kids are :heart:

[hippiechickme]

Thank you Summer. :heart:

[Terry Bo Berry]

Yes there are parenting classes here. Right now she is not taking my calls though so guess I will just have to wait it out. She will need me soon to help now doubt.


Eileen- You are wise to be patient. I am thinking about you today.

[hippiechickme]

Thank you Terry. This really sucks.

[RedSquirrel]

So sorry you are going through this. Hope it all works itself out soon
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[Mama Kel]

maybe she needs this time away from you to understand everything you do to help her and the baby. Love to you. :heart:

Hope this resolves soon :heart:

[hippiechickme]

Thank you for all the thoughts for me. Damien's father sees him on Friday's so he came over with the baby and let me see him for a couple hours. I feel a bit better for now at least. That was so so wonderful of him to share his brief visit with his son with me. Maggie only lets Damien see his father twice a week for only a couple hours at a time so he surely didn't have to share that time with me.
This is so hard for me as Damien and my relationship is more like mother and son than a grandmother / grandson relationship as I took care of him so much since he was born.

[wabbit]

That was very generous of him to share his time! I am so happy that you got a chance to hug and kiss Damien-- :heart:

[hippiechickme]

I can't wait to see you and Gabe next week Heather! Can't say if I will have Damien or not but I am picking up Tiffany and we will be there!

[wabbit]

Wonderful! I have been toying with rescheduling the party only because I haven't had as many people (not you!) rsvp from around here. The ones that did were regrets, so I am hoping those that haven't responded plan on coming-- I want to make sure it is worth renting the gym. I am thinking of asking the parents if I run into them Monday or Tuesday at daycare. Is that tacky to ask them if they are attending??

(sorry to hijack your thread! I should ask it in another, I think I will..) :heart:

[Misha]

Oh Eileen, that sounds like a very painful situation. Hopefully your daughter just needs a few days to regroup and then she'll be ready to try to work things out. I also bet she'll realize how much you were helping before if she has a few days of having to do it all herself.

Good luck Sweetie:heart:

[hippiechickme]

Thank you Misha :heart:
How have you and Jude been? Post some pics of him please. He must be getting So big! And when are we ever going to meet in person?

[wabbit]

Thank you Misha :heart:
How have you and Jude been? Post some pics of him please. He must be getting So big! And when are we ever going to meet in person?


This spring, at my house... at my big huge wonderful party in my backyard.. :wink:

[hippiechickme]

This spring, at my house... at my big huge wonderful party in my backyard.. :wink:

Yay!!!:ura1: That will be so much fun! I have wanted to meet Misha and Howie and Jude for so long. She helped me more than she will ever know when I was having problems with my Lisa. She made me feel like there was someone who cared. She gave me some great great advice and I will be forever grateful for her help through that rough time.


There now I have hijacked my own thread! Is that even possible to do? :lmao:

[wabbit]

now we just need to get misha to come!!:funny1: I figure a few months of planning should be enough time to cajole all of those out of towners to NH !!! :heart:

[sarah b.]

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[hippiechickme]

Another bad day, now my husband is leaving over this too. :crying:

This is so messed, my whole family is falling apart.

[wabbit]

OH no.. :heart:

[hippiechickme]

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[RedSquirrel]

Oh no, I am so sorry to hear this. I hope things get better soon.

~sending love to your family~ :heart: :heart: :heart:

[mamapajama]

oh gosh
thinking of you
hoping a really good thing happens very soon :heart:

[hippiechickme]

Maggie came today and brought Damien to see me. It all went well! She was only going to stay for a little while but she stayed all day.
She will be staying at her dad's for a while, but will bring Damien to stay with me each night she has to work. She works 3rd shift so that works, that way the baby can sleep in his own bed most nights and Maggie will not have to deal very much with family issues. This may I hope I hope I hope work out for the best after all. I do not like where my daughter is staying, but it is what it is I guess.

[wabbit]

This sounds like a good plan! I am so happy you have had this chance to talk to her and start to smooth things over to a workable situation-- :heart:

[Drop_o_Rain]

I am thinking about you. I am glad to see that things are on the road to recovery. I hope that the same holds true for your husband and you. It is hard to be a stepparent.
Much love to you.

[hippiechickme]

I am thinking about you. I am glad to see that things are on the road to recovery. I hope that the same holds true for your husband and you. It is hard to be a stepparent.
Much love to you.

Thank you. Yes it must be very hard to be a stepparent. Especially to teenagers whom you have not raised yourself. My husband and I will be starting marriage counselling this week. I shall stay positive that all will be good in the long run.

[musicmomma]

omg eileen, what a crazy few days you have been having. i am SO sorry you have to go thru all of this and will be praying for peace within your family. :heart:

[sarah b.]

:heart: there's a lot of love and feelings. i'm glad things are looking up. may they continue to do so. :heart:
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[Sunny Sunshine]

Oh Eileen :heart: I'm sorry lady :heart: I hope it all works out for the best for all involved soon :heart:

[hippiechickme]

Thank you everyone! I am keeping positive that all will be fine!

[lil pixi]

I'm so sorry, mama. That's really rough. :heart: =(

I hope you're still keeping positive somehow & holding up well right now. :heart:

[KindGeeGirl]

:heart: :heart: :heart:

[fire_rocket]

:heart: Hope all works out well for you. :heart:

[Terry Bo Berry]

Eileen, just checking in to say hello and to make sure you know you are loved and being thought of today. I hope you and Rick can work through this chaos.

Kiss Damien for us!!!!

[CreekFreek]

Wow! That's a lot to deal with all at once.

I hope things are turning in a more positive direction :heart:

[hippiechickme]

Eileen, just checking in to say hello and to make sure you know you are loved and being thought of today. I hope you and Rick can work through this chaos.

Kiss Damien for us!!!!

My love to you too Terry. Just got home from working an 11 hour shift. All is well with me today. Talked with Maggie and she will be over with the baby tomorrow afternoon and he will be staying here tomorrow night.
Just keeping on keeping on. :smile:

[jerrylovinhippy]

:heart::heart::heart::heart:

[bast]

Best wishes to you and your family.
I think marriage counseling sounds like a good idea, may I also suggest you and your daughter see a counselor together.
I went through hard times with my mom and if she tried even half as hard on repairing our relationship as she did in failed relationships with men, I think we'd get along a better than we do.

[vinandtonic]

:heart:

[Misha]

Eileen, I hope we meet really soon (still kicking myself that we didn't even meet at the vibes!!!). Anyway, I don't have much time on the boards these days but I've been thinking about you and am sending you lots of love:heart:

[hippiechickme]

Things are starting to go much better. Still some issues but we are working all things out I think. Maggie has been here almost all week with the baby but she still has all her stuff at her father's. My husband never left.

[Beany]

Wow Hippiechickme-- I just saw this post.. actually I haven't been on the board for a while. This new board is much better. I'm so sorry about your troubles with Damien! Glad to know things are better. I guess your daughter needed time to think? So good to know that she's been with you & the baby. That's more important than her stuff.